Court for less access?

[HoneyLemon29]

Long story short. My daughters father is saying he's taking me to court for LESS access. Is that even a thing? He currently has her every weekend and has now asked for every other weekend. I said due to work commitments it would impact me a lot especially with him giving no exact reason for the change.
My question is can he actually do this? Get a court order to have her less?
Apparently he wants all the days set in stone by law so I can't force her on him every weekend because I refuse to change the schedule.

He doesn’t need to take you to court to see her less, he just can stop seeing her, don’t know why he thinks he needs to take you to court for that?

Surely you both should have dc weekends and week ends 'off'? Don't you want that too?

Is there any compromise you could agree too? Maybe he has her while you work but you collect after work some weekends?

As a pp said he doesn't have to go to court - he can just turn up on the weekends that he wants and there would be no legal repercussions for him.

A Child Arrangement Order is a list of times that you have to make your dd available. It is not a document listing when he must pick her up.

It sounds like you currently work weekends so might need some time to find a new job.

Could you suggest he has two nights during the week instead so that you both get weekend time with your dd and to yourselves?

So you don’t want your DD at weekends and he doesn’t want her and you are both prepared to go to court so you can both argue about the fact that you don’t want her?

Imagine how that will make her feel….

I think you both need to start putting her first.

He doesn't need an excuse to decrease contact but if you're a shift worker who can't change things quickly he will hopefully wait a few weeks first.
Every Other Weekend is popular because on the weekends that they don't have kids, the adult can do adult things like socialize at night, stay in bed, DIY etc If he's dating someone then ROW would be his chance for dating overnight.

My ex did this. Suddenly announced it one day. We'd come to the arrangement due to the fact that he worked during the week and I worked weekends. It meant I had to take a significant pay cut and he didn't give a shit.

He also told me at the same time that he was retiring, so that he wouldn't be increasing CM because his income would be affected. This all really affected his relationship with DC (although I've never slagged him off to them, and they don't know about the CM thing)- the eldest barely sees him now, which is sad. I think my ex will really regret his actions in years to come tbh.

But if the OP is responsible for her DC all week and then works on weekends, it's not about her not wanting her child at weekends, it's about working to provide for her child. In this scenario, the OP already gets no free time at all- she's always either caring for her child or working. This is the reality for so many people.

Is it that he wants to go to court to get future dates written in stone! Maybe he's trying to get shifts sorted and his place of work want proof? Like a WLB? It's clear OP is against it. Maybe he wants some help to arrange. I agree every weekend is a bit unreasonable.

I'm guessing from what you are saying that you work weekends. I strongly suggest you have a mediation session with a facilitator who can help you both focus on what is right for your child as well as allowing you both to pursue careers and have opportunities to see friends etc. I'm guessing that he may wish to sometimes do things/see people where he can't have a child in tow, but could you alter your work and he has your child a couple of nights a week and then every other weekend?

The poor child, both parents wanting less time with them than the other parent is asking for.