If you co-slept...when did you stop, why and how?

[MooMa83]

Just that really. I didn't intend to co-sleep with my 4 month old, but did so through necessity. I actually quite enjoy it now, am getting a fair bit of sleep and hardly register the night feeds. I do think about the future though, and will at some stage I'm sure like my bed back with DH (who is relegated to the spare room). Would like to hear others experiences...thank you for sharing.

With both my DDs I moved them into their own beds and bedrooms just before 2, coslept with them there for a bit and then reduced the amount if time I spent in bed with them.

1, now hes almost 4 and co sleeps with his Dad 🙈 works for us

@Sucessinthenewyear did they go straight into single beds?

Mine were both about 9 years old when they stopped sleeping with me. They just both voluntarily moved out into their own rooms (which they'd had all along). They wouldn't hear of it before then!

Mine stopped when she turned 5!

She went into her own room at 6 months. The co-sleeping was sort of nice, but I didn't enjoy going to bed fully dressed and still being freezing cold, not really sleeping properly because of fears over crushing her etc etc. I can't really remember how I did it though, helpfully! It's crazy how one forgets these things as it wasn't that long ago. I think I went back to putting her in the next2me after feeds and persisted with it.

Just before her 3rd birthday. We put her in her own room,in a single bed.

Stopped because me and my husband wanted to have a normal sex life again!

About aged 6 in both case before they consistently slept alone. Not planned but we just did what came naturally.

DS was 1 and went into his own room and we gradually reduced the amount of contact we had from cuddles in his bed until he fell asleep to hand holding etc. If he's really poorly/has a bad dream he still wants to come in our bed though!

I rather liked this word as a way to explain why I used to like being with my parents, and I think about it when my DD and DS are squeezing me out of my own bed:

germanyinusa.com/2021/02/24/word-of-the-week-geborgenheit/

Well mine is 3 and still in bed and the 5yr old has started trying to come in through the night again. There's no room for 4 of us in the bed so I'm up and down all night taking her back to her bed.

I've started putting 3yr old back in her bed when I'm going to bed but she usually comes in about 3am and wkends rest of night in our bed.

They were actually better as babies lol well oldest was. Youngest I had to co sleep with as she was such a bad sleeper.

The first when she started crawling because she would crawl around in her sleep.
The second coslept from the first wake up, so once he slept through, he stayed in his cot all night.

Ours left just before 3. We talked to them about it and that it was time they slept in their own bed, and they did it. Might have had to lead them back a night or two first though.

Coslept with both dc from birth- didn't plan it but they had their own ideas.
Dc1 got her own room at ~2, double bed and me or dh settled her in there at bed time then snuck out until she woke and then one of us slept with her. Wakes gradually stopped and then she got her own 'big girl' bed at 3 1/2 and hardly ever wakes up now at 8.

Dc1 got his own room at 2, little toddler bed because his room is smaller. From day 1 he settled well at bedtime with one of us holding his hand and just wakes at some point and shuffles through to my bed and climbs in demanding cuddles. He's just over 3 and is sleeping through about half the time now, assume he'll just do the same as dc1 and eventually stop.

Both moves to their own rooms we made a big fuss about it, decorated the rooms and let dc choose their bedding/decor, a new night light. Lot of praise at bedtime (and even more when they'd slept all night in their beds!).

3/4 double. Very useful for when they are ill and need to sleep with a parent.

Mine is 4 and still sleeps with me.

Ages varied, my last kid co slept until puberty due to SN. They all went into a double bed though because it's much easier dealing with a sick kid through the night if the beds big enough for the both of you. They went into single beds in the teens when they spent a lot of times in their rooms and needed more floor space

Our 3rd slept beautifully in a carry cot next to me until she was 6 months then came in with us until she was 3. It worked for us. I should know better but choose the battles💁🏼

Youngest DD was 6 when she stopped, forced to go into her own room and stay there as I was unwell for a while. I'm a big fan of everyone sleeping wherever they can, whenever they can when kids are young. I remember having this conversation with a very young and newly qualified (male) child psychologist - he was outraged, what a weird thing to do - co-sleeping till SIX omg no way. I thought yeah just you wait mate, just you wait. Hoping he's enjoy 3 under 5s now!

When they were ready, dd1 was 2.6 when she stopped trotting into our room (she was going to sleep initially in her room from a year) dd2 was more persistent, was 7 before she gave up completely

Currently lying in bed next to my 10yo and 7yo 😭

My baby is 2 (just turned at Xmas) I want him to sleep with me but he wants to sleep in his cot (in my room) since about 18 months. We'll get into bed then about 10 mins in, he'll want to go into his cot. He'll wake in the morning and want snuggles in my bed.

We coslept from around 6 months to 10 months as he started nursery and caught every illness going and so did I therefore it felt easier to get to him as he woke so frequently. However at 10 months we realised it just wasn’t working. his sleep seemed to actually get worse and he was waking up hourly/every two hours and I was desperate for some proper sleep so we worked on getting him back in his cot. He’s now 11 months and sleeps in his cot all night in 6 hour stretches.

Every night from birth until 7, continued 2-4 nights a week until 11. Miss the midnight snuggles!

@Pizzaandsushi how did you work on getting him into his cot? Cot in your room or his own?

Thank you all, quite a wide spectrum of experiences. We are going with what works, and what equates to most sleep for most people. We are aiming on putting her down in her next to me crib at the start of the evening, then she comes in with me due to frequent night wakes for feeding etc. I am toying with doing some gentle sleep training at some point if we feel the set up isn't working. Interested in methods of sleep training to transition to cot or bed for those that took that route?