If you were on the fence about having a second, do you regret it?

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Especially if you have a larger age gap.

Pregnant after 7 years of not being able to. It's very daunting and I am definitely not entirely on board with the idea. So tell me your stories please.

Thanks.

Don't worry, when you see both of your children together enjoying each other's company you will know there's no better feeling in the world. I'm so glad every single day that we had our second child.

yes.
ended up a single parent and the two dc were different sexes so I couldn't get a 2 bed, had to hold out for a 3 bed place. dc2 was on autistic spectrum. I love him but it made everything so much harder. This doesn't mean I don't love him before stoopid people reprimand me.

I don’t regret it. I love the both of them so much. However I feel more exhausted than I thought possible.

Surprise 2nd pregnancy (20 years age gap) no regrets here, my 2nd is a few months old now and adored by all of us including my 1st born despite the huge gap.

I was worried almost depressed all the way through my pregnancy but the reality is far better than how I imagined it would be while pregnant.

in fact I'm so happy I'm considering trying for a 3rd in the kit so distant future

I think everyone has the fear when pregnant as it is such a big life change. I remember thinking what the hell have a I done and looking at my poor first child whose world was about to implode wondering why I'd done that. Anyway we all got over it and they're really close now.

I was definitely on the fence when I found out I was pregnant with my second, to say the least. Kept thinking I'd made a huge mistake, wishing I hadn't done it. Dreaded the baby arriving in lots of ways. But I don't regret it at all - sometimes I think it would have been easier sticking at one, but once that little person is in your life it's different and you love them so much so even if it's hard, it's worth it

I was in the same boat, DD2 after 7 year gap. Very much wanted and loved her to bits. Found the baby stage a bit hard to go back to, but the biggest challenge is the different focus needed for both DDs at every age - now one is in GCSE and the other still needs play dates...
When DD1 will be off to Uni, DD2 might get lonely.
Now the youngest is 8+, it's easy. No regrets at all except I wish I'd had <5 year gap (couldn't have as I had to wait due to my mum being severely unwell at the time).
Both DDs love each other (most of the time) and I very much wanted them to have a sibling.