Nothing is changing/ sleep issue

[MummaLeonax]

Hello all please any advice I would be grateful! no matter what we try my nearly 2 year old cant self soothe himself and always wakes up in the night I honestly cant think what else to do this has been going on for months hes never been a good sleeper.
before anyone says aswell we have tried the cry it out method about 3 times in different months as hes been growing up to see if it would work again.. it doesn't work for him he doesnt cry himself to sleep he becomes more awake because he's that upset. we are currently trying the slowly moving away, hes still waking up. he loves our comfort to much he has a teddy and blanket he doesnt want them he wants us.

My child was like this.

We tried everything. All the stupid methods in all the stupid books.

When she was nearly 3, she suddenly started sleeping through the night without any ‘training’. But before then she just couldn’t do it no matter what I tried.

All I can suggest is give up trying to fix it and cosleep till he’s 3, like on his floor on mattresses next to each other, or maybe get him a double bed that you share. Wish I’d just done that from day 1.

If you don’t get many responses it’s because the truth is, children like these just need company until they’re 3. I’m sure you’ll get advice from parents who had a ‘sleeper’ but I doubt it will help you.

Good luck!

My 3 year old slept with me until 2.5, she has a double bed in her own room now and sleeps in there but still wakes 5-6 times a night and shouts for me. I go in, cuddle her back to sleep and go back to my bed. Like PP, we've given up trying to fix her sleep, in the hope she'll sleep better when she's ready.

Same issue here. But previously slept through. Waking frequently in the night. It's torture. Some nights I'm so anxious about being woken up that I can't sleep. I'm not sure what to suggest either. I have considered a sleep consultant though. As I know they are capable of sleeping through.

@LeCarre gosh im so glad to hear that im not just the only one who's had no luck no matter what you try.. and the so called keep at it it will eventually work 🙈 ive been trying for months! he always wanted our hand to stroke him to sleep or for him to hold when we put him in his cot we have stopped stroking him to sleep but still in his room, my husband likes being persistent with him if he gets up my husband will tell him to lay down and so on, eventually he will fall asleep can take 1hr depending how the night goes 🙈 then a few hours later he will wake up, we have made a bed next to his cot and go in there as I dont want to get him out and bring him in the bed anymore because I know that's what he wants 🙈 we have another baby on the way too so I would like him to stay in his cot if possible 🙈 some days are hard especially with working early mornings i do tend to bring him in sometimes if its like half 4 😂 thank you very much for your advice though I dont feel so alone 🤗😇 x

@PrincesssConsuelaBananahammock this is what my husband and mum are saying that he will grow out of it, but when he's screaming in the night wanting us and won't stop its very hard thats why we made a bed in his room, I tell you what you do get better sleep hes in the bed though 🙈😂 sometimes he will go back to sleep but then im waiting around knowing he will wake up in a few minutes which he does and back in me or dad goes, thank you very much for your advice its nice when you can relate 😇🤗x

@iloveyankeecandle yes I was looking into sleep training, gosh one point I was seeing if I could get one to come to the house to show them what he's does its alright explaining to them or the docs/health visitors but its not the same as seeing what he's like. I feel like I get more help of you mums that professionals sometimes too not in a horrible way but you can empathise as if we are going through the same sort its easier.
thank you very much for replying 🤗😇x

Very similar story here (2.5 yes). We now have a double bed in her room that we co sleep in.

My friend saw a well known psychologist who advised her to put a mattress next to her bed and try to move her DD on that way. Next step was to lock her in her room(with her knowledge, she was older by this point). It did work I think but sounded a bit brutal, they were desperate by that point. I think it shows the reality is that it is really hard for some families and standard sleep training doesn’t work for everyone. Her DD is at uni now…..

when we are in the room though he either messes around in his cot doesnt settle so we start to head near the door.. then he starts to cry 🙈 give it a couple of hours of him sleeping hes back awake in the night at the end of his cot waiting for either me or my husband to go in just absolutely clueless of what to do anymore x

@MummaLeonax this is literally my kid. I don't know what to do anymore. It's been going on two months. I thought just waiting it out would work.. but no. I'm going to try gradual retreat I think.