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Help with autistic son hurting his sister

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Lily189 · 28/01/2023 07:37

Hi everyone
I have a 2 year old son who is non verbal autistic and I have a 1 year old daughter
My son is an amazing boy he's so happy and laid back and so affectionate towards his family he goes to play group and the teachers say hes a joy to be around and he plays away and has never hurt any children or other members of our family
But from his sister was born he has had nothing to do with her no matter what we have tryed and for the last couple of weeks it's gotten where he pushes her just for trying to go near him or in an area he is in
And he's started to try and bite her and always trys to bite her head today she got in her ball put and he wanted to play with the balls so he screamed and bite her on the face she now has a bruise and teeth marks on her cheek
I shouted at him and put him in his cot on a time out
And I'm currently sitting crying my heart out
I just dunno what to do he hates his sister It started with him because she was a baby who constantly cried and he hates the noise so he just has never took to her and now dosnt want her around him at all it's so hard she adores him and just wants to play with him me and my son are really close im the one he shows the most affection towards and I always make time for just me and him eveyday

It's also hard because he's non verbal and i dunno how much he understands so I dunno who to properly make him understand and I feel the time outs are just going make him hate her more but I need to show him he's wrong and I don't want my daughter being hurt either

All advice would be great tia

OP posts:
Landlubber2019 · 28/01/2023 07:47

We had similar although no sen to consider, we did use the time out step but rapidly abandoned it as I seemed to spend my life carting errant child to the hallway for a cosy little chat. Instead I changed my approach to ignoring the errant child showering the injured party with love and affection. I hadn't considered that I was spending more 121 time with errant child and effectively rewarding the behaviour 🤦.

This made a massive difference in how one child reacted to the other

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