Don’t want to be jealous

[Haylie1]

Hi all I’m a single mother of 2 and my mother and stepfather really don’t care about my children or me(refuse to babysit them, don’t get us Xmas/birthday presents, never call to see how we are doing), my sister who’s my mother and stepfathers real child has 2 children and gets them watched weekly for no reason doesn’t work, her kids get presents all the time including a full garden at my mothers house of toys for them, she’s always doing things with my mother. She’s just announced she’s pregnant again and I feel envy not at the child part but the fact my children will be pushed out even more, I work 40 hours a week and never go out as I have no support for my children(their father passed away)I just wish my mother would sometimes ask if I need help. It’s all due to the fact I’m not her husbands child. It was my birthday end of December and I didn’t even get a happy birthday. I feel I keep chasing something and it’s mentally draining me

Go NC with your mother- she sounds horrible tbh OP.

She really is and I know deep down I should walk away and she really wouldn’t care, I just find it hard to do it’s like closing a door. I always hope she will see the light and change but been waiting 20 years

Walk away. It's not worth it, you won't change them.

Very sad. I had to make a hard decision and walk away from very close family myself for other reasons. To be honest, one thing most of us make an error on is expecting something just because that's what "family" do. I would live and forget, you know this is the case, you cannot beg for it so you just accept and carry on with your life in other ways. Makes me wonder what your life was like under their roof.