Just want a opinions pls?

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So I just want opinions but I don't want to be lynched, it's just to get other peoples thoughts.

So I've lost trust in my ex now after finding out he left our 16 year old in a house alone with 3 toddlers ( one is mine 2 are theirs) a 6 year old (mine) and a 11 year old (mine) and 12 year old ( mine) and 9 year old ( his wife's kid) and 15 year old ( his wife kid) whilst they both went to Chase bus because his wife 15 year old left her bag ok the bus. They left them for 10-15 minutes. Now I know people will say the 16 year old is of an age where she can baby sit, but all those kids??! What if something happened? And it's the fact he left them to chase a bus for a bag that can be replaced. My ex is one of those men who like to impress people and look good to others so I think
He did it to impress his wife and he daughter to play the hero,

My 16 year old is very upset lately due to the fact he treats her daughter so perfectly and calls our daughter names. When my 16 year old left he bag on the bus ( with expensive air pods in it) he just said she's stupid and wasn't concentrating and said it's only material stuff so to me he will go to any lengths to impress this kids of hers even if it means leaving young children alone.

The wife didn't seem arsed that all those children where alone in that house either

It wasn't even an emergency situation

If I did that ( not that I ever would!) he would absolutely roast me

If he calls her names and she’s unhappy going there she’s old enough to say she doesn’t want to anymore.

I don’t think him popping out for 15 minutes is terrible at all, but there are obviously many more complicated issues. She can vote with her feet.

Who cares if he’d be unhappy if you did it? Barring abuse and child endangerment you each get to parent the kids in your own homes as you wish.

So a 16yo and 15yo left in charge of siblings for 15 minutes. Seems fine tbh. Do you ever let your dd babysit her siblings when with you?

No never, I couldn't go out leaving them like that with a settled mind

I think there's two issues here that you've bundled into one.
The "babysitting" is absolutely fine - I personally wouldn't have given it a second thought.
But if your daughter isn't happy going there she should tell him (herself) that she's not going and the reasons why.

Sorry meant to start own thread. Have reported

I really don’t think leaving kids and teenagers of that age alone for 15 minutes in the middle of the deal is an issue at all!
At 16 I was babysitting for multiple kids.

Yabu and you expected everyone to agree with you.
Unless there is a big dripfeed about your dd..

You really need to allow your 16 yr old to grow up a bit and stop being such an overpowering parent. She is also old enough to step back a bit from her Dad if she doesn't feel the way he is treating her is fair.
You also need to stop being so invested in how your ex parents at his house and stop allowing his opinions to affect how you would parent in yours.