Advice please

[Nova888]

Hi I’m after some advice. I have a 3 year old son and he has autism. Tonight he had an a really bad meltdown because he didn’t want to come out of the bath. My partner was getting annoyed and saying his behaviour is appalling but he called our son a waste of space.

I spoke with my partner and said that I didn’t like it when he called our son a waste of space and that it’s a horrible thing to say. He’s never apologised for saying it though.

This is the second time that he’s called him that. Our son has autism and he will have meltdowns and I have said that he needs to handle things better.

has anyone been in a similar situation and have any advice?

Did he say it so your son could hear? I would be very concerned about him saying things like this anyway, but in front of your son, it's very worrying. If he continues like this, and it sounds like he will if he's saying this when he's so young, your son will grow up with real huge dents on his self-worth.

Said it to your son or about your son later. We’ve all thought and said things later as a way of blowing of steam especially after a difficult interaction/day.