I can't bring a baby into this

[idontfuckingwantthis]

I'm having a baby in a few days time. My 3 year old has been fucking horrible today. I don't know what's happened. Screaming, shouting, name calling, scratching, biting, hitting me. Tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. My nerves are absolutely shot. My husband and me have argued all day, I've cried so much, The house is just full of screaming. I rang my mum in tears and she said he's acting out because we're about to being the baby home, I can't handle a day like today with a newborn too. I can't handle my husband and me ending up arguing rather than being on the same team. I'm in bed crying my eyes out and I can hear my son just screaming and I just want it all to fucking stop. I've never felt so low

Sorry your having a really shit day @idontfuckingwantthis

Firstly take a big deep breath and slow your thinking down.

Your toddler will be picking up on the vine between you and your dp as well as the imminent arrival.

Plus it's a toddler so hey they don't really need a reason to be shouty

Hopefully you and dp are bickering over non important things and can be rectified ?

If so. I would take a deep breath,go downstairs and speak to your partner about not falling out as it's not worth the stress at an already stressful and anxious time.

Your Mum is right.
But it will be ok.
Maybe for a short period DH could deal with toddler or your Mum could take him for a few hours? Sounds like you need a rest if you can take one- Even if just for an hour or two

Is your mum local? Or planning to come visit in the next few days?
If it’s possible, get her to take your 3yr old out and spoil them with attention (not necessarily with things). Really just have a day all about him with his Gran. It will help the behavior. Does he go to nursery? That will help too.
Is your husband nervous about the birth too?
Be kind to yourself OP. There’s understandably a lot of tension in the house because you’ll all waiting for this big life changing event to happen. And it’s a somewhat scary, always painful and sometimes traumatic event to boot. It’s not an indication of how things will be for you as a family of 4 going forward.