My partner and I have a child each but none together. I’m 40 and he’s 44 and we have had three miscarriages together. It’s now at the point where if we decide to keep trying I need to see a doctor for some tests to see if there’s a reason that I keep miscarrying. It could just be my age, I had one at 38, 39 and I’ve just had another at 40 very recently.
I keep getting cold feet about whether we should try again. I’m very sensible and logic. Often overly so. To me there are pros and cons. The pros of going ahead and having one are it would be great for us to have a child together and it would also be a sibling for my daughter as I worry about her not having a sibling when anything happens to me. I’m an only child and always hated it. I know some only children are not bothered but me personally have never liked it. But! And it’s a big BUT………
I worry that with us being older we won’t be around as long as I’d like for them, we would literally be skint, paying childcare costs until they went to school and as we literally have no family on either side that could help us out, even a night out would be a no go as we just don’t have anybody that would look after them.
My partner looks on the bright side and thinks that we would find a way, as people always do.
He thinks that although It would be a financial strain for the first couple of years, a lot of people don’t have anyone to watch their kids but I’m a worrier and just don’t know.
I’m scarred that in a couple of years when it’s too late I’ll regret not having one but at the same time I’m also scared that we do have one and regret it and everyone’s lives will be turned upside down.
I know nobody can tell us what to do as it’s a very personal choice, so I’d just be interested in peoples opinions really, but please no haters 🙏🏻