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WTF can I actually do to stop the hellish night time?

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Mamabear04 · 22/01/2023 08:09

DD just turned 3yo 2 months ago. She has been an absolute nightmare during the night. She wakes anywhere between 1-5 times saying she need a pee. Sometimes she'll pee 3 times a night, sometimes just saying it because she's had a nightmare, sometimes I think its just separation anxiety. She has had multiple ear infections over the last few months and I read peeing more during the night is a symptom but she's just finished a dose of antibiotics! I limited fluids after 5pm and her bedtime is 7pm. She's completely potty trained and has been out of nappies for some months now. I've tried putting a potty in her room and telling her to go herself but she refuses to and shouts until someone comes to help her. She has 2 night lights and they still don't help. I've tried limiting what she's watching on TV re nightmares. She's had a lot of change recently. I have a 6mo who she very much loves and love seems normal now. She just had some settle in days at nursery last week (she found drop off hard but was happy on pick up, head to toe in glitter and chatting away about everything she did). She starts x3 afternoons next week.

My question is WTAF am I supposed to do about the night wakings? Our house isn't big and if I leave her to shout she'll wake the baby and probably our neighbours. She refuses to go to the potty and is using having an accident as a power game. I am at my wits end. It's at a point where its causing problems between me and DH. Everyone is exhausted, everyone is miserable, what do I do???

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Mamabear04 · 22/01/2023 08:10

*life seems normal

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Sleepwalkingintothewall · 22/01/2023 08:11

She's got used to her body needing a wee. My 3yo did this. I just put him in a pullup and took him back to bed, after a few nights he wasn't waking for the pee, he did wee in the pullup once but has been dry since.

It's just like if I woke you up at 2am every night for 2 months, you'd still wake up at 2am because you're used to it

PritiPatelsMaker · 22/01/2023 08:13

Is DH doing his share of getting up to see her? She's had a lot of change and some illness. Id get up (or DH) each and every time and deal with her requests in a calm and quiet way.

If it is separation anxiety the worst thing to do is to not respond to her needs.

Could you get DH to have the baby fir a while today so that you can do something with just her?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 22/01/2023 08:14

I would go in when she screams sit her on the potty in her room without chatting to her and put her back. Perhaps the novelty will wear off. Nightmares- I worked out my 5yr old was having them when she ate too close to bedtime- after dinner snacks. So I go rid of them.

Mamabear04 · 22/01/2023 15:27

DH is doing his fair share as I'm up with DS who is EBF. I'll try limiting any food too close to bed. I must admit I had been giving her a crumpet before bed in the hope it would fill her tummy and keep her asleep but no. Never works. I really don't want to put her back in nappies. Feels like 10 steps back...

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PritiPatelsMaker · 22/01/2023 18:10

I really don't want to put her back in nappies. Feels like 10 steps back...

I don't think it's a retrograde step. It's fairly unusual for DC to have a linear potty training experience so I'd try the pull-ups. Actually I wouldn't, what I did with my DD was put her back in cloth nappies and she was dry after 2 nights but the pull-ups seem like s more acceptable step! Grin

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