Baby won’t be put down when poorly

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Ever since DC was born, when she’s either had a vaccination or has a bit of a cold, she will not be put down to sleep and wants to sleep on me or she is absolutely hysterical.

When she’s not poorly she sleeps fine on her own though.

she currently has a cold and she will only sleep on me this evening so I’m in for a long night. I’ve tried everything to put her down and nothing is working, not even co sleeping with me right next to her. She has to be on me.

Is this abnormal? She’s 7 months.

She's poorly.
She's 7 months.
She wants/needs her mum

Normal

Totally normal. Be there for her.

Aww she’s little, she wants her mum. She doesn’t know she’s separate from you at this age.

In a years time, you’ll be missing her sleeping on you.

I co-sleep with DD3 when she’s ill. Totally normal.

Very normal! Just be glad she sleeps well when she’s not poorly

That's absolutely normal!

Sounds normal, DD 3.5yo will still sometimes come and sleep with me when she is ill.

My son had bad tonsillitis and slept on the couch with his head on my lap being patted for about three days. He was 16 at the time! They just want their mum and she’s only 7 months so she doesn’t even know you and her aren’t the same person yet, it’s totally, totally normal OP. Hope she feels better soon x

My 18mo is poorly. I held him all night to help him sleep last night.

Totally normal. My son co slept from 6 months as he would only sleep when with me, whether perfectly fine or not.

He's nearly 2 and we still co sleep but I love it

I feel awful for saying this but I’m just so exhausted I could cry. It’s constant with one thing after another. If it’s not teething, she’s being clingy, she’s now whinging and crying constantly because she has a cold. She was colicky as a newborn and I had a month where she slept amazing and was a very happy baby and in the last few weeks it’s gone to feeling like newborn stage where she’s up every 30mins to two hours.

i feel awful for her that she’s not well, and hate seeing her like this and wish I could make her feel better. I’m a FTM and I’m just finding this so incredible hard sometimes and very lonely. My husband works very long hours and I don’t have family who can help.

this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’m dreading going back to work in a few months as I don’t know how I’ll balance it all. I’ve

Don’t feel awful! It IS really hard, it was the hardest thing I ever done, and 18 years later I stand by that! It’s a shock! It feels like this time will never pass but it does. Totally get how overwhelmed and exhausted you’re feeling right now, I’ve been there, I truly do feel for you, I remember being away from family and in the same situation with DH and I was so lonely too. It will somehow just become less hellish for longer periods and you’ll get sleep and you’ll feel better and you’ll look back in years and forget how it felt like the most shocking hell at times. You’re exhausted, please be kind to yourself. Ask DH to give you a break if he can. You’re a great mum. You’re worried about your baby and you’re done in. This time will pass but if there is anyone you can reach out to that can come and stay even a night or a weekend, it really does make a difference. My son wouldn’t sleep anywhere but on me for months without screaming, I thought I was going to die! Then he just turned into the most adorable toddler and I had none of the terrible twos or threes with him at all…. It just feels like it’s going to be like this forever for you right now because you’re completely burned out. And it’s normal to feel like that so please don’t make yourself feel worse by feeling guilty. X

Have you given her calpol?
I d try to get her to sleep next to you again, so you can get some sleep. If she'll only sleep on you you'll be knackered as you'll gave to stay awake all night.

I found calpol, the baby vapour rub and one of those snot suckers helped. Plus something under the matress at one end to raise it ever so slightly for her, making sure it's still safe.

As someone who has spent the last couple of nights squished into a hospital bed cuddling my poorly 3yo, or sat by her bed holding her hand, yep, totally normal and totally knackering. I'm probably getting a couple of hours a night broken into 10-30m segments.

The one good thing is as they get older, and SIDS isn't really an issue any more, you don't need to be so careful with safe sleeping guidelines. As a baby, you need to stay awake if they sleep on you. If they are three, you can just let them find whatever position (inevitably inconvenient for you) they want. That doesn't mean you can sleep if they are draped over your head, but at least you are allowed to.

Normal. My baby sleeps in his cot as soon as I put him down, he's great. He's hardly even been sick, when he has you wouldn't even know it. He got covid a few weeks ago, that night and next day he slept on me. Next day back to normal in his cot.
It's perfectly normal, they want the comfort of their mum