How do you deal with the constant whinging

[malteaserlover]

My son is 26 months and sometimes (a lot of the time) he just whinges and whinges and whinges and it just goes right through me! After I try giving him food and drink and nappy change and play etc. etc. and he still whinges I'm just at my wits end and struggle not to get annoyed and end up just getting angry. I'm 34 weeks pregnant which I don't think is helping but how do you deal with it? Are you able to remain calm? Any tips? I do sometimes walk away to a different room if it gets too much but it doesn't always help cause I can still hear him

My two were a bit like this - it's hard going. I found being out somewhere helped but it's hard to be out all the time. I used to let them watch a fair bit of kids' TV which helped distract them from it and saved my sanity.

Oh god I hate whinging. I used to say something like "What a funny voice. I can't understand you at all when you talk like that. Please talk properly so I can understand." I would start off nicely but if it carried on I would just say I couldn't understand them until they talked properly.

Seconding this! I cannot stand whinging!! I know 26 months is still quite young so a bit of whingeing is to be expected 🤣 but I think making it clear that you won't engage with whingey conversations is ok to do.
My friend's daughter whinges CONSTANTLY (she's older, 3yo) and it's at the point now where I've stopped inviting them over for play dates as it just goes straight through me when she cries and whines for the simplest thing that she could just ask outright for!

Yep, we used Notjusta’s approach and it worked eventually.

26 months = 2

OP I have a DS like this. He's 3 now and I'd say he's got a bit better. I totally know how you feel!

This, why would you say your 2 year olds age in months ?

Absolutely this. Just don't stand for it. I always insist my DD uses her words properly (as in, a big girl, clearly audible, voice), or she gets nothing. I won't respond to the whining. That soon puts a stop to it. Basically, you have to give them a reason to talk properly by never giving in to the soul destroying whinges

Whinging was not allowed in my home, period. I told my children I would not respond unless they spoke in a normal voice, and they certainly wouldn't get whatever it was they were after. Never had an issue with whinging after that.

Also meant to say when they did talk properly after being asked, I'd heap on the praise and say how grown up they were and thank you for speaking in your normal voice etc. You feel like a bit of a fool but it does work!

Try to ignore it

Yep, agree with the power of praise. I sometimes feel like I spend a lot of time over exaggerating the 'well dones', but toddlers bloody love being told when they've done something good, so you can always use that to your advantage.