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Tell me about your 9 month olds. First time mum worries

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Shannon9955 · 19/01/2023 20:59

My daughter turns 9 months old tomorrow and she's the happiest little soul. I'm a first time mum so unsure what's 'normal' and what's not. I seem to be surrounded by babies who are so more advance than her and it worries me.

  • She's bottle fed, never got any breast milk to breast feed. She's on 6oz bottles, will take 7oz on her first morning bottle.
  • Shes only just sleeping through the night (8pm-8am) has 2 naps a day.
  • is eating a mix between purées and will eat what we eat for dinner if she can. But she's going through a phase where she prefers jar food which is fine because she eats it all and that's better than nothing
  • She sat up by herself at 5 and a bit months. She can't sit up from laying down as of yet. She also rolled back to front at 5 months old
  • She's starting to play well in her own company without having me there constantly. Plays with toys in her hands, can pick them up and throw them
  • She can't clap hands or wave
  • Shes not yet crawling. She can put her arms up straight when on her stomach but can figure out how to make the arms and legs work at the same time. So she basically just shuffles around the floor
  • She's really strong on her legs if you pull her up to standing, will hold on to furniture but can't pull herself up onto furniture. Also if you hold her arms she will take steps
  • She is a squealer, always squealing and babbling away. Always smiling and laughing
  • She's started flapping her arms when excited
  • She's started responding to her name

Think I'm just paranoid, but any feedback would be good. Would love to ask my health visitor all these questions, but I don't think I've had a reply from her since my baby was 16 weeks old. And I've switched doctors so I think they'll appoint me a new health visitor?

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Shannon9955 · 19/01/2023 21:41

Thank you ladies for being so reassuring💓 never known worry like first time mum worry, it's next level😂 thankful my partner is the calm to my storm. I'd be in overdrive if not

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Changechangychange · 19/01/2023 21:44

Thesearmsofmine · 19/01/2023 21:18

Many babies aren’t crawling at 9 months, some never crawl(apparently I bum shuffled and then went straight to walking).

DS crawled AFTER he could walk independently. Weirdo. I think the first time I saw him actually crawl somewhere (as opposed to leaning forward on his hands to reach something, then sitting back down again) was about 16 months, and he was walking well by himself from 14 months.

Perfectly normal, sporty six year old now though.

Cuppasoupmonster · 19/01/2023 21:58

Shannon9955 · 19/01/2023 21:36

This is exactly what I've been doing. Especially matching the signs. She's really strong with eye contact, mainly because I wear glasses and she stares at them to pull them off. She's constantly smiling when I look at her. I know those 2 things are signs so she's not ticked the boxes for it there. But what you've just said I'm doing exactly that. And she's of course an only child, I've taken her to some classes but it was one on one still between me and her. She's been to soft play and she wants to play with the other kids so badly. She has cousins, but they are a lot older so they are a bit heavy handed for her to play just yet. But you can see she just wants to play.

I think I worry more in a sense because I had a stillbirth at 19 with twins and me and my now partner had 4 miscarriages before our daughter so she is so special to me

Sounds like you had a very tough time before she was born which has put you on ‘high alert’. It’s totally understandable - I had problems in other areas of life and DD was so precious to
me it felt like I couldn’t be lucky enough to have everything go okay! But she sounds absolutely fine - it’s you that needs some TLC I think!

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Justbecause19 · 19/01/2023 22:11

Comparison is the thief of joy. I had no concerns about my DS1 until he didn't start talking, absolutely nothing to be concerned about as a baby. He is however Autistic and looking back now I realise it wasn't what he did but the things he didn't do. I only know this from having DS2 and seeing the difference. I think the beauty of a first baby is you have no comparison, so enjoy it! Also Autism isn't the end of the world Smile

Username721 · 19/01/2023 22:49

Shannon9955 · 19/01/2023 21:19

Yes, people keep saying to me why do you want her to crawl because then it's game over. We bought her a Walker for Christmas and she's constantly opening the cupboards now. She is so fast in it also, I'll have my back turned for a second and she's in the hall speaking to herself in the mirror

Yep!

Baby gates, child locks, socket covers…we have them all now. Jammed fingers are no fun!

Mumof3bb1 · 08/07/2024 12:54

Hi @Shannon9955 how is your little one getting on?

Shannon9955 · 08/07/2024 12:58

@Mumof3bb1 wow, this is an old thread! How times have changed😂 she's now a sassy 2 year old who knows what she wants and is the most independent little girl. So loving and caring, but my lord she knows how to cross the boundaries😂

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Mumof3bb1 · 08/07/2024 13:09

Aww I’m so glad everything worked out well @Shannon9955 these children don’t half worry us!

Shannon9955 · 08/07/2024 13:11

@Mumof3bb1 I've just become a second time mum 3 weeks ago to another little girl, so I'm sure I'll go through the newborn and growing up worries all over again! The worry never stops does it

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Mumof3bb1 · 08/07/2024 14:21

@Shannon9955 aww congratulations!!

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