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12 months old (age adjusted almost 11 months), language delay

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JLaw1002 · 19/01/2023 18:46

Hi everyone. I have a baby boy who just turned 12 months old, but was born 6 (almost 7) weeks early, so age adjusted he'd still be in the 10 month old bracket, but almost 11 months.

We just had an early intervention screening because he's been a little behind in communicating with us, and they found that he has a Receptive language delay. His expressive language they found was ok. Cognitive he was right on the borderline but was still passing.

I'm pretty shaken up. I have OCD and I've been obsessing about the possibility of him having autism for the last few months. And while the therapist said she doesn't necessarily see a case for autism yet, I can't help but feel it's right around the corner.

For his positives... He likes to be held most of the time. He is doing pretty well with fine and gross motor. He babbles a ton, always making new sounds. He does mimic us sometimes, and he says a couple things pretty frequently (mama, wah wah), but not all the time. In a particular song he likes, there is a part that goes "lalala" and he recently started singing along with that sometimes. He is able to wave goodbye to people, and will often give you a high five if you put your hand in front of him, but that's mostly the extent of his gestures (he's clapped a handful of times, but it's rare). He likes peek a boo, and recently he even started burrowing his head into the couch and popping his head back up whilst smiling when we say "where is he"?. He likes to be chased in his walker, especially when you say "I'm gonna get you". If I'm carrying him around and point at things, he usually will look at them, I'd say 80% of the time. There's actually a song on YouTube he likes where one of the characters is pointing out body parts, and at the part where she points out fingers, he wiggles his fingers like her. He likes toys, and doesn't seem to hyper fixate on just one.

But the main issue they saw was that his name recognition was pretty poor, when he's involved with a toy or something it's rare that he cares about you calling him. He doesn't seem to understand what "no" means, in fact I'd say he doesn't even care when we raise our voice. When I say "ba ba" he doesn't care, it's not until he visually sees the bottle that he wants it. And when he wants something, he doesn't point or gesture to it, he just cries. He doesn't show us toys or objects if we ask him, no reaction whatsoever, just continues about what he's doing.

His joint attention is fairly poor also, although before about a month ago it was non-existent.. he's really just starting to look at an object, then back at us, then back at the object... It's rare but he has started to do it, and the evaluator actually noticed him do it too. His eye contact has always been hit or miss. He will look at people, but it usually happens at specific moments, like when I'm holding him and giving him a bottle, put him on his changing table, standing in his doorway of his room, or if I sing a nursery rhyme to him... otherwise he just seems too occupied looking at other things, but at the same time it doesn't seems like he's intentionally looking away.. it just seems getting and keeping his attention can be difficult. I suppose with a language delay that could make sense... The word a lot of relatives use to describe him is "busy".. he just always seems so into what he's doing, but unfortunately he doesn't seem too into other people. He will NOT let you sit him on your lap to read a book or anything, he just wants to be on the move, doing his own thing most of the time.

One thing the evaluator noted was that some of his toys are very noisy and that can distract babies from hearing language.. and then a light bulb went off in my head and I realized that from the time he was very young (about 4 months old) his babysitters have put shows on TV for him, and he's watched them I'd say at least 2 hours a day (sometimes 3 I'd wager).. and I've read that TV can definitely cause language delay in infants.

I'm trying to say positive, but I'm also really terrified. I have a sibling with severe level 3 ASD, and I'm just hoping if there is an issue we caught it early and EI can help him get through this with a good result.

Has anybody had babies at a young age with poor receptive language and joint attention and seen them blossom and do ok later on?

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OkPedro · 19/01/2023 18:54

I don't have any advice op and I'm not a therapist but I would have thought most babies at 10/11/12 months don't understand the word no?
From what you've written he seems to be doing really well. Has the evaluator said he has a delay in receptive language because he doesn't respond to his name? My ds is 11 now and didn't reach any of his milestones until months after he was supposed to. I was worried at the time of course

Skinnermarink · 19/01/2023 18:56

I’m going to be blunt- am I missing something? Because the age he is, he doesn’t sound remotely abnormal. How did you get him diagnosed with a language delay at such a young age? I presume you paid someone privately?

OkPedro · 19/01/2023 19:00

@Skinnermarink I was wondering that too, how can a baby have a language delay?

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HimalayaSalts · 19/01/2023 19:13

I know you're just a worried mummy and well done for getting all the testing done etc ... but my first thought when I started reading the post was 12 months?? Too young to be worrying about this, but I'm a first time mum so its just an opinion

JLaw1002 · 19/01/2023 19:15

I'm in the US, I believe most on this forum are based in the UK? I guess things are pretty different here. There are screenings for delays and ASD as early as my son's current age. What they found is that he's not processing the language he's hearing appropriately for a one year old.

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LadyWithLapdog · 19/01/2023 19:18

Is this for real?!

LadyWithLapdog · 19/01/2023 19:20

Sorry, you’re worried and my wording was harsh. I apologise. I can see now that you have some family history which makes you more worried than others would be. 💐

OkPedro · 19/01/2023 19:21

@JLaw1002 but you've said yourself he's 10 almost 11 months because he was born early.. I've never heard of a baby being assessed for language delay. As I said it sounds like your son is doing great. Did you take him for an assessment because he was born early? Or was it advised that you took him for an assessment by a pediatrician or other doctor?

JLaw1002 · 19/01/2023 19:24

The assessment was an option given because at his last checkup he was a little behind on the ASQ, so it was to give us piece of mind. Unfortunately, it's brought a lot more doubt and fear!

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BeckettandCastle · 19/01/2023 19:25

My DS didn't say more than the few odd words until he was nearly 2. Can't get him to shut up now!

They all develop at different ages but nothing you've said about him would concern me - the only thing that would is the fact that in the US you've had such a thorough assessment which shows he's within the boundaries of 'normal' yet they're talking about him being behind. Madness!

jannier · 19/01/2023 19:26

I've worked in childcare for 29 years including with children who have speech delays. Your child sounds to me like a typical 12 month old.
I'm guessing someone is making money from this screening.
Share books, sing songs play clapping games and peekaboo talk to baby and relax.

thirdtimeluckyorwhat · 19/01/2023 19:27

I'm guessing there is someone earning money from this report you have done !!!!!! I never heard anything more ridiculous in my life. A 12 month old ? Just play talk to and enjoy your baby for goodness sake and take no notice

OkPedro · 19/01/2023 19:28

@JLaw1002 Yes I can imagine you are worried sick now 💜 for what it's worth your son seems to be thriving

Swiftswatch · 19/01/2023 19:30

My DD is only 18 months so I remember 12 months very vividly. None of the things you have mentioned sound particularly concerning. I have a wide circle of babies the same age and this sounds normal for basically of them.
I wouldn’t have even thought you could have a ‘language delay’ at 12 months!
Honestly to me this sounds like a charlatan and not a reputable medical professional.

Jellycats4life · 19/01/2023 19:30

His expressive language was OK? What kind of expressive language does the average 10-12 month old baby have?

Very confused that anyone is talking about expressive and receptive language in babies, at an age when many haven’t uttered their first word.

And worrying about joint attention? Madness! I really think this evaluation has caused more harm to you than good. As much as the U.K. healthcare system sucks, I think the American system is a bit of a racket. So much money exchanging hands to pathologise a baby.

student26 · 19/01/2023 19:33

Im on FB groups for children with speech delays. My son is three and doesn’t speak yet. I am only just getting support from Speech and Language and even then they just work with the parents and nursery. The amount of people from the US saying their children have language problems when they are under 18 months is incredible. I don’t know how many drs are telling parents worrying things like this when there is generally absolutely nothing wrong. Your baby sounds absolutely fine, remember they don’t start speaking until after 18 months. Please try not to worry.

VariationsonaTheme · 19/01/2023 19:39

The range of what is typical language development at that age is so vast that any assessments are just ridiculous. Concentrate on providing good models of language and lots of engaging him in language rich play, and ditch the therapists out to make money.

itsabigtree · 19/01/2023 19:44

He sounds like he's doing great!

My eldest's speech was early and advanced (not bragging), but even she wasn't saying anything at 11 months!!

Babies don't understand no. And if there focused on something else, it's very normal not to respond to name, until much, much older 😅

From what I understand, the USA can be a bit over the top with paediatrician involvement. Just try snd enjoy your baby, and if your still concerned in a year or so, reassess.

Lurkingbutinterested · 19/01/2023 19:45

Was this with a paediatrician or equivalent professional? Did you pay?

MintJulia · 19/01/2023 19:47

That seems incredibly early OP. I'm not sure they can tell anything at that age.

My ds didn't say a single word until 25 months. He's fine, all good, at 14y he has an academic scholarship and has no problems communicating.

Fundays12 · 19/01/2023 19:58

OP I am reading this and really astounded that this level of assessment is given at such a young age. My oldest son has ASD and ADHD. He could say dada at 4 months old and was a year ahead speech wise by 2 years old. Unknown to us this was an early indicator of ASD. His siblings are nuerotypical and both there speech wasn't anywhere near as developed as dc1 at the same age. Your baby sounds like they are doing great. The only thing it might be an idea is to try cut TV time if possible a bit because sensory experiences are much more important for gross and fine motor skills at that age.

sunshinerainstorm · 19/01/2023 19:59

Of course they are screening and diagnosing infants who can't speak yet or not even Supposed to speak yet with a language delay, it earns them money!!!!

Your baby sounds completely normal OP. This is shocking. A baby has zero understanding of the word NO - that is normal.

Bigbadfish · 19/01/2023 20:00

I was confused until you said your from the USA. Of course they throw these assessments at you. They want money. It's what the American health care system is based on.

There is nothing wrong with a 11 month old not having full understanding of language.

Lenald · 19/01/2023 20:02

A speech delay at 12 months? Lol - this isn’t a serious thread

MassiveSalad22 · 19/01/2023 20:02

Sounds more advanced than my 10 month old tbh!