DD prefers dad

[Newmum2002]

My beautiful little girl is 10 weeks old and just perfect... I do all the child care as DH didn't want the baby so told me from the start she would be my responsibility... so I do ALL the feeds, all the nappies and look after her 95% of the time. I don't care, I love being her mum and would do anything for her. I know what cry means what, how to settle her quickly, her feeding routines, etc, and we have the best cuddles!

It hurts though that she gets so excited when she sees her dad and is all smiles straight away, where she hardly smiles at me, even though i try to play with her all the time :( it feels like I'm just her milk machine and he's the parent she loves more, even though I literally do everything for her.

AIBU to resent this? Has anyone else had similar?

He’s a novelty, funny, interesting. But you are her whole world and your love and care helps her feel safe to laugh and play with others.
it’s hard work caring for a baby. Get him to help.

You two are so entwined, she doesn’t realise you are separate people. I’ve read that research shows small babies see themselves as part of their mothers. Cherish it, don’t resent it.

I don’t know if it’s true but I read somewhere that babies see their mothers as an extension of themselves in their early weeks so for her, you’re a constant, you’re her comfort and you’re like a part of her

She'll come to you when she needs help. He:s an entertaining clown.

This ^

if you are the parent taken for granted , you are the one she knows would always be there for her.