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Feel like a terrible mum and don’t know what to do

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Turkishfelight · 17/01/2023 10:22

I’m on my own and think I cracked last night. DD woke less than every hour. She’s 9 weeks. It got to 6am and I let her cry. For twenty minutes, maybe longer. I feel terrible. I am tired and hungry and alone. I have no help around. My mum has offered to pay for a day childcare a week (she can’t physically help me herself) but I can’t face leaving DD so young. I feel totally stuck and a shit mum and don’t know what to do

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 18/01/2023 03:13

How about paying for a doula/nanny for home instead? Maybe 2-3 hours a couple days a week to give you a break to eat, shower, nap?

Judgyjudgy · 18/01/2023 03:28

CallTheMobWife · 17/01/2023 10:26

It's completely fine to leave her to cry when you are not able in that moment to deal with it. No harm done.

The cost of a days childcare could probably equally pay for a mothers help type babysitter for the same or even more time. Get someone to come in for a few hours a couple of times a week to help you, and let you rest but you'd still be on site.

This is an excellent idea

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