Tonight’s the night - the dummy is gone 😬

[ScottishMum03]

All good vibes this way please 😂🤞🏼😬

DS has just turned 2. Dummy has been completely gone during the day since about 9 months old but the night times are another story 😬
In the last year we’ve had 2 house moves, new childcare, bugs just about every other week 🙈 so I’ve been putting it off and putting it off but today is the day.

Hes taken 30 mins to fall asleep when it usually takes 2 mins BUT, he’s asleep 😬🤞🏼 With no tantrums. How many wake ups do we all think this mummy is dealing with tonight? 😅

You might get lucky OP! Mine had a grumble when she first got in bed but quickly got used to it.

Then about 3 weeks later she found a dusty dummy under couch and shoved it straight in her little gob.

That dummy wasn't as easy to confiscate 😂.

(Check for hidden dummies and don't be me).

I just got rid of the dummy on sat! She kept having tantrums over wanting it so i cut it up and binned it. Took longer 4 her to settle the last 3 nights but her sleep is the same as it always was- one good night, then last night up a bit but thats typical. Give it a week and i think all memories of it will be gone 😀. Hope tonight goes ok for you and your wee one 😀😀

@Eeiliethya 🤣 what a nightmare. We played a huge game of “find the dummies” today. He’s been obsessed with “tiny babies need dummies” for a few weeks so I’ve taken the opportunity and we packed all the dummies we could find into a box to send to all the new tiny babies 😬🤞🏼 He was very very excited about it so I’m hoping that’ll be enough. I’m just about to tear the house apart looking for any rogue ones 🤣

@Catdogmouse1 How old is your little one? I’m hoping that I’ve made it a far bigger deal in my head than it’ll actually be for DS but we’ll see 😬🤞🏼He’s not the best night sleeper anyway but often shouts me because he’s lost his dummy so hopefully taking it away will stop that 🙈

@ScottishMum03
Shes turning 3 in feb, so its well overdue getting rid. Normallybi put her 2 bed but she has wanted her dad since i got rid of the dummy- im the bad mummy who got rid of the dummy i think at bedtime, but hopefully thats not 4 2 long. Likewise with the sleep- she has more split nights than sleeping through nights 🥱🥱🥱

The dummy fairy came to this house 6 days ago!! It wasn't as painful as I thought it would be. A few tears on waking and bedtime for 3 days but neither asked for it tonight. Good luck!

Watching with interest. DD3.5 still has hers at night. It's only as we are tucking her in, and it's put away in the morning. She doesn't use it all night, just plugs herself in when she needs it.

I'm on the fence with it now.

Yes - it needs to go. I'm not stupid. Her speech is fine, no issues. Teeth (at the moment) are fine too. It's a comfort to her. Doesn't have it in the day at all.

Do I really have to purposely upset her, break her lovely bedtime routine, and take her comfort away?

I'll admit I waited until DD was 3.5 and we got Santa to take it away. I think elves "came" in december, took it away for new babies, and brought her a small teddy. She asked for it for a few days but did great and forgot about it. She's 7.5 now, her speech was never an issue. She did have a gap in her teeth but I actually think that's from when she fell out of bed and hit the floor with her mouth. The gap has closed nearly now. She still has her comforter rattles but only keeps them in her bed so that's fine.

If it's not currently doing harm, and only for getting to sleep I would absolutely say keep it. You'll have far more problems trying to get rid.

My son (now 7) had such a hard time getting to sleep in the year following we got to a point where he needed melotonin prescribed. This then caused him to have nightmares. In the end we ended up reintroducing the dummy, the small amount he has it to fall asleep / self soothe far out ways the problems without it. It's been very restricted when his big teeth come through (we removed it as soon as his fell asleep) and his teeth are fine.

@Catdogmouse1 Oh it’s the complete opposite in this house. Mine is going through a huge “no daddy” phase. Mummy has to do everything 🙄😬

@ToddlerMumma I’m hoping we’ll be the same 🤞🏼😬 first night wasn’t bad. One wake up where he woke up screaming crying though which is very unusual! He’s not usually much of a crier. He fell asleep at 7pm last night without much bother and I hadn’t heard a peep from him all night but he just woke up at 4.30 screaming the house down again 😭
Dummy was mentioned a few times yesterday so it’s obviously been on his mind as he’d only ever usually mention it when it was time to get it at bedtime. I think he just wanted some reassurance - kept saying things like “mumma - tiny babies need dummies, and I’m a big boy” 🥺

@curvymumma79 Exact same scenario here - used it to fall asleep, dropped it most of the night but would pick it up whenever he woke to self settle. He’s definitely advanced with speech so no issues there and no issues so far with teeth. But I was starting to find that if he couldn’t find the dummy in the night (he often knocks it out of bed) then he’d end up wide awake hunting for it then he’d be shouting me because he was wide awake and thought it was time to get up 😬 Personally, I’d like him to be able to self settle without it as I feel like having it was actually starting to disturb his sleep anyway!