Help - Parent of 5 year old Boy - im lost Í have no idea what im doing

[MrsG2017]

So so sorry everyone, I am just lost. Im 44 years old, i have a degree a high powered job, im not stupid. But clearly I am. I have absolutely no idea how to parent my five-year-old.

Ok we are in extreme circumstances. we have just relocated back from NZ to the UK. we are stuck in an Air BnB trying to find a house to buy or rent in an area we can afford. SO we have been in Gloucestershire for three weeks to no avail and will be moving on to Lincolnshire next week. DS (5) isnt in school, hubby and I aren't working fulltime (i am doing bits in the evening for my old company in NZ) 'He's anxious i know he is, he just wants his own home and a bedroom and a school.

I am literally at my wits end, i have no energy to parent and i have no clue what to do. He hates anything that seems like learning, he wants tp play games on my iphone or watch youtube (which hubby and i have agreed we need to ban) and of course that sends him nuts.

We have no support and cant even walk to a play ground

What are your daytime routines with your kiddies? i feel like ive lost myself since leaving NZ. I am so scared that this will impact him in the longterm.

I must admit, I thought the same as @SecretVictoria. it’s one hell of a move and there doesn’t seem to be anything concrete in place.

However, there’s a lot of anxiety coming from you OP. Understandably, perhaps. You have no home, no job (unless doing ‘bits’ for your old job is going to develop into something else), and no clear plan for your life in the UK. You’re too anxious to drive the car because it’s big, so you stay at ‘home’ in the Airbnb and your son is bored, a bit lost and almost certainly picking up your own stress.

Build a routine for each day and get out of the house. Things will settle as you have a plan.

My 5yo can be quite resistant to going out but it is by far the best thing once we are. I find it helps to give it a purpose, rather than "let's go for a little walk" it's "let's go for a scavenger/treasure hunt" or a nature trail and see how many birds/snails/butterflies we spot. If you've got a sort of board and checklist and pen that he can tick things off so much the better. Maybe there's a hot chocolate in there for him when he gets home. If I were you I would try to do something like this every morning, play games etc in the afternoon and relax on screens from about 4pm. Good luck with the move and settling. You'll get there in the end.