Is it terrible my partners nephew annoys me so much

[GirlMamaxo]

Before I start this, I just want to state I know this is a child.

My partners 2 year old nephew really really annoys me, slightly angers me. So we've recently moved to be closer to family. My little girl, who is 8 months old has been has to my friends babies around her, or just adults around her. All gentle playing and just nice surroundings. Now we've moved closer she sees her cousins a lot more which she isn't use to. They are all older, apart from one who is 9 days older than my little girl. There is a 3 year old and a 2 year old. The 2 year old is a boy. Now I'll get into the why he annoys me.

First occasion my little girl was in her jumper and I was watching her, he went over and ragged my little girls hands from what she was holding onto. I said be gentle and I just kept watching, he did it again so I removed my little girl to hold her away.

Second occasion, she was playing with her toy. He comes right in her face and again rags her hands off the toy. Again have to remove my little girl away.

Third occasion, Christmas Day. I was changing her and he came over to her so I kept close eye. I then put her on the floor so I could bag up the nappy, he was so close to pushing her over before he was stopped by his parents who told me "just don't trust him around her" he then comes over a few moments later when she's on my partners lap, cuddles her, then looks me dead in the eye and pinched the back of her neck. To which she screams.

Fourth occasion, I went to the retail park with my sister in law (his mum) and she offered to drive. So my daughter is in the car seat by the window, he is in his car seat in the middle and the baby same age as my little girl is next to the other window. Firstly soon as I strap her in his shoving his hand in her mouth, which I said "don't do that she has teeth she'll bite you" so we start driving and I can see him corner of my eye trying to touch her. I look round to try and speak to him to distract him. We get onto the motorway my sister in law chatting away. I then hear my little girl scream (which she never screams, happiest little soul) so I turn, he's again ragging her arms and shaking her car seat. Only so much I can lean from the front seat to the back to comfort her, she's screaming still. Still on the motorway and my sister in law is telling him stop. I get her out and her face is bright red from screaming, I comfort her before putting her in the pram. Once I've put her in her pram her eye is just streaming with water, so take a closer look and he's poked her in the eye good and proper. Hence the scream. Her eye was bloodshot. I was furious in all honesty.

When I say how I feel about this I get the "oh he's only 2" which I get completely. But it's like he guns for my little girl soon as he sees her. He's in her face, grabbing her arms, squeezing her hands. And it's got to the point now where he just comes near her and she'll cry and it breaks my heart because all she wants to do is sit and play nicely but I have to keep removing her before he seriously hurts her.

I really don't know if I'm being dramatic and I feel awful feeling this way towards a 2 year old child, but he really really infuriates me

@duvetcovereddissident
@Bubblebath90

Ragging in my area means to pull and push someone roughly. Can also mean hair pulling eg He ragged my hair

I see the OP is from January. How is it going now @GirlMamaxo, is your nephew still playing up?

Why are so many old threads getting resurrected these days? 🤔

@SmileyClare has great advice. You of course need to keep your dd safe first, and that likely means an end to car trips and any unsupervised time. But it's also important to know that a child can behave this way as a toddler and still turn out to be a totally lovely child and adult.

Two of mine were fairly easygoing as toddlers, one was a biter. It was horrible at the time, but it was a phase due to having a new baby sibling, new teeth and frustration with learning to speak, and he stopped with support and focus. Now he's a quiet and very gentle school aged boy, people wouldn't recognise him from the toddler-shark.

It's such a shame that your nephew's parents aren't doing enough to support him and to stop him from hurting other children. Hold that against them, if you have to, but not against him. One day your dd will be 2, and you'll see how young it really is.

Oh how annoying, well spotted!
I think it’s due to the new feature added now called “Similar threads” which suggests old posts on a similar theme.

Posters are clicking on those assuming they’re still active?

@Cantstaystuckforever Your toddler son was far from unusual although “toddler shark” made me laugh 😂 he sounds like a lovely lad.

Agree there’s normally always a reason behind a toddler “mis behaving”- it’s never vindictive - understanding the reasons means it can be resolved or managed without the need for family members to “stay away from the nasty toddler”

Its unhelpful to put adult characteristics on a 2 year old, who’s little more than a baby; understanding little about consequences and unable to communicate their needs.