Single mum stressing about giving my child a good life

[rosygirl13]

The subject says it all!
i’m a 20 year old single mum to my little boy who’s 8 weeks old. I’m starting to feel stressed that I need to get myself in order but don’t know where to start.
I live with my mum and three siblings and I need to move out to a place of our own, but I don’t work and claim universal credit. I’m currently saving up what I can. No landlord will accept us and I don’t have a guarantor either. I’m on the council list but in band C so not a priority.
I don’t drive or have my theory which I need to.
I don’t have a career and was working as a customer advisor beforehand.
I just need to get myself in gear but thinking of the steps I need to take seems impossible!

Has anyone who was a single parent in the same position have any success stories for me? What steps would you take to get yourself there?

Hey, see you posted a while ago. Hope you’re feeling better about your situation and your little ones doing well. I understand your fear or feeling like you have to get everything together for your child but not having the means or time to change anything, I’d say try to focus on your little one and if there are any positive to your current situation, even if not ideal. You don’t want to loose this time with your baby. I’m 38 and have been in stuck situations where I just don’t know how to make change and I’ve always ended up finding a way, may not be the way you think. But life will move forward. You will be entitled to the 30 hours free childcare when they are 2 on UC and 3 when working, so that might help.

Make the most of living with your family while you have their support. Spend gentle, happy times with your child, set up healthy eating, sleeping and out door exercise routines.

Think about where you would like to be working in five years time and take steps to bring that into fruition. Make your child and your career your focus even if you can not secure a place of your own.

Once your studies and work life are chugging along well you will have more options in nearly every other aspect of your life.