I have a 14 month old and she is miserable to be around. She always has been. She cries relentlessly. At first she was colicky and would scream for 5-6 hours every night but now she’s not in pain or unwell etc. She’s perfectly well. She’s started sleeping through at night and is still the same (although she is worse when she is tired!) she’s basically only ‘happy’ if I’m holding her or if she’s on the boob when I’m with her.
if I’m working and I’m not with her she’s fine. If I walk in to a room to pick her up where she’s been quite happy all day as soon as she sees me she cries relentlessly. If I walk out of a room and come back as soon as she sees me she cries. It’s just a constant cry fest…. She can’t bond with grandparents or anyone when I’m there because she spends the whole time crying to be with me! Even if I hold her she won’t look at anyone. however she’s ok when I’m not there!
I don’t find being at home enjoyable or being in her company a lot of the time. Most of the time I would honestly rather be in work because the constant crying is just so over whelming and it really gets to me.
Also, it’s not a ‘phase’ she’s always been very moody / miserable. I’m assuming it’s just her personality ? I love her of course and she can be occasionally happy and really funny, she’s also very clever and has amazing speech and she is quite clearly very attached to me but I find it very over bearing at times.
she doesn’t seem to like people apart from children. If I go and do the school run and another adult smiles and says hi to her she will scream and cry relentlessly!!
I often wonder if I ‘caused’ this by bed sharing/ holding her constantly / EBF however I know this helps build a secure attachment and this is what I did with my other children and they were all fairly happy and ‘independent’ and happy around other adults at this age. I thought going back to work would help and it hasn’t at all if anything it’s made it worse.
I have 3 other children none of them were like this. They were fairly easy going and happy. Honestly if she had been my first she probably would have been my last in the nicest way possible 🤣
she loves her dad but when I’m there she only wants me. It is obviously nice to be loved and wanted but I also need my space and my ears to stop hurting from the constant whingeing/ moaning / crying.
Does anyone else have a baby/ toddler like this ? I need to know I’m not alone. If she was permanently attached to me she would be fine! Any tips ?