MIL keeps falling asleep holding DD?

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Not too worried but it's happened twice now whilst I have not been there.

By DD falls asleep as she is only 5 months and then MIL falls asleep with her on sofa. DH was there and kept an eye on them but first time none of us were there. Should I ask her not to or just be extra careful?

I probably didn't explain well- she falls asleep in her arms and half on her lap so if MIL dropped her whilst asleep she would roll onto the floor.

Why aren’t you too worried?

after the first time she’d not be left alone with DD if I were in your shoes

ffs protect your baby

On the one hand very sweet. I have cute photos of my kids asleep on various people who were also asleep at this age.

On the other, not so good if no-one else is around.

Talk to her about it?

I'm going to mention to her today if I see her not to fall asleep with her. DH was there with her and he said keeping an eye but I don't think he was first time. I'm annoyed and don't trust her

didn't see your second post about rolling off, that's not great.

@steppemum I know it does annoy me. I've noticed a couple of times she drifts off as well

It’s really relaxing having a baby on you, but not safe.

why is MIL so tired? My mum did this once after a night shift herself, and after that we didn’t let her supervise the kids solo after nights.

But if this is daytime sleepiness without cause, maybe think about wider health concerns eg sleep apnoea?

No this is unacceptable, cute as it may look imagine if the baby rolled off face down, doesn’t bear thinking about. She can’t have the baby unsupervised, it’s that simple.

@CaramelWaferAndTea no idea what she is so tired. I have mentioned to DH I'm not happy and he needs to mention something to keep our daughter safe- if not I will be saying something to her. I have never drifted off with my DD in my arms even when she was newborn and I was up all night completely shattered, I knew how dangerous it was.

I think you’re probably in the minority tbh, sleep isn’t controllable when sheer exhaustion sets in. The risk partly depends on the positioning. I’d be a bit worried about her health that she’s that tired. Is she in sole charge of your child or just visiting you? Is she well enough to babysit? Could you look at positioning?

This isn't safe: www.lullabytrust.org.uk/safer-sleep-advice/co-sleeping/

MIL either needs to transfer DD into a safe sleeping space once asleep, or if the risk of MIL falling asleep with DD is high, she should be supervised.

But you must let her know this is unsafe.

I wouldn't be happy with that at all, it's bloody dangerous.

Of course this isn't ok, your DD could suffocate. I wouldn't leave a baby alone with someone who is obviously unaware of the risks.

She could kill your daughter.

Erm, why aren't you worried about this?

I’d be really fucking worried

Not too worried why not?

Absolutely not safe, people accidentally kill their babies doing this.

Falling asleep whilst holding a baby on a sofa is one of the top unsafe sleep situations babies die in. This is an absolute no. If your DH is there he needs to immediately take baby if she falls asleep. If she can’t stay awake whilst holding them she’ll have to not hold them. I’m very pro cosleeping but it has to be safe, planned bedsharing not accidental sofa sleeping

If she can’t stay awake then she can’t hold the baby

That is so dangerous. You cannot let MIL hold the baby unsupervised in case she falls asleep. How old is your MIL? Does she have health problems?

What a silly post......tell her not to fall asleep with your baby 🙄it's really quite simple
But you're not worried ? 😬

This is a no brainer in my opinion and regardless of what anyone on here might think, its a massive No

You need to protect your daughter - start to speak up for her!

This is seriously dangerous and if your mil is just randomly falling asleep all the time to the point she can’t stop herself she needs to get herself to the doctors and get some tests done.