me & ex split 9 years ago amicable breakup …. we have a 13 nearly 14 old daughter who spends time 50\50 which has always gone well, me & ex have very different patenting styles, me being the disciplinarian, him being “fun” which has caused a little friction in the past.
Recently my daughters behaviour has taken a turn for the worse - she’s always been a well behaved child with adverage grades, now it is detention every week & poor performance in class.
Her behaviour towards me has also changed, she is snappy, rude, disrespectful & is lying a lot about anything & everything …. however, when i try to implement punishment & rules she goes straight from school to her Dad’s house to “escape” punishment & ignores my phone calls & texts.
Instead of ex supporting me in discipline & encouraging her to come home to “face the music” he says “it’s between you 2 nothing to do with me” .. very unhelpful, he also does 0 dicipline yet complains about the same behaviours i do?
it was supposed to be my day yesterday she did not come she said she had a “headache” & wanted to go to Dads to “rest” instead she brought a friend to Dad’s to spend the night knowing i wouldn’t allow this due to her bad behaviour & 2 detentions this week! I told her Dad & he just said “well she’s here now” (on about friend & daughter) no encouragement at all or punishment for lying to me. he lets her stay up all hours & also has bought her alcohol in the past without my consent or anything!!
What do i do here? i feel i’m painted as bad guy & he’s good cop & my daughter seems to be getting worse …