Don't want my baby in a house with violence alcoholics and drug dealing

[MelxJgx]

So my ex is threatening me with a lawyer because I would rather him see the baby in a social work department, he lives with his mother who sells drugs and drinks alchol every night they have neighbours battering there door in with baseball bats, him himself got dragged out the house by police and its still a ongoing court case. How would this work if he does go to a lawyer to take my baby up that house? Would they look at the activities that's went on up in that house and see that they have been busted for drugs and caught with the drugs and all the other stuff ?

Have you spoken to social work about this yet? I’d think about getting them “on side” and also if there are any DV problems or aggression from him right now, get it logged with the police.

it’ll all stack up as evidence if and when he ever takes you to court. Remember: a shitty letter from his PAID-FOR solicitor is NOT the same as a court order.

It’s probably too late to ask why you bred with this man, but honestly?

DogBowlsAreMyWeapon - yeah social works are involved already and have been since I was pregnant as I got him charged with DV before having my baby. Updated the social work on the last argument we had because he was threatening to come to my house and smash my car up, but after tht I gave him another chance and he picked me up flung me on a bed and took the baby away from me so tried to update the social work about tht also but haven't been able to get In contact with her. Feel like a need to be with him so my baby isn't round all that nonsense in that house but a can't do it no more he's not worth it, never bought a single thing doe the baby all he buys is weed

PortiasBiscuit - I know lol keep wondering that myself but hard to regret it now because of the baby couldny live without him now

You need to be with him? Er no. You need to stay away and ensure your child has only safe and monitored contact.

You do not need to give him access right now. IF he feels so strongly he’ll take you to court… but that might eat into his drug money…

Threatening to smash your car up and throwing you on the bed are both incidents you can go to the police with.

the police are SO much better understanding DV than they were when we were children - please don’t be afraid to call them. It’s also worth showing them nasty texts/emails/38 missed calls in 3 minutes type stuff.

Really helpful

Don't give him any more chances
don't let him see the baby
DO call the social worker before they hear from a police report

It sounds like he either needs no contact or supervised contact only. I would stop all contact, and get a non molestation order against him if he turns up or causes any issues. Then he can take it through the correct channels (court) and either be granted no contact or supervised contact, conditional on him being clean/sober and never taking your child to that residence. I would fight for him to have NC at all with little one, and then he might gain supervised contact at the judges discretion but not unsupervised, whereas is you start at supervised it could become unsupervised as a half way point, better to have room to manoeuvre later on. And you'll probably find that like a lot of lowlife losers he never bothers take it to court at all and you and your child get the peace you deserve away from him and his toxic family

No way he's going to go to court to try and take a baby in to this. He'll get laughed at and sent on his way. Leave messages for your social worker and for god sake get him out your house before they discover you're still with him as you risk losing your dc in the long run if this all continues. It's not a voice between being with him or your dc going there