I just want to let it out. So I live with my MIL, have for the past 2 years (we are wanting to move out soon) but most likely she will tag along. She loves talking about her illness (diabetes/high cholesterol due to bad life choices), same goes with how she talks about her husband even though she's fine but loves to be vulnerable so her son does not leave her. However, we need to go due to having a 9 month old and wanting out own home etc. Whenever I'm on my way out, e.g to my family, playgroups and he is being wingey, she claims he's not well. Now, he is fine hence we're leaving the house, this has resulted in me getting angry (I used to ignore at first). I told her she's obsessed with telling everyone her and husband is poorly and they don't go out, which they do and she's only in her early 60s and healthy as eats and sits watching TV all day. I told her not to use same energy on my son, yes he can catch on odd flu but he's heathly and happy. She loves just being a victim and vulnerable. Tells people my sons not been well when they come when he's been fine. Her son tells her not to say anything to me. She loves her grandson however so I let her have him when she wants (doesnt care about her daughters kids who love nearby) but is obsessed with my Boy. Sometimes she gets annoyed when I don't give him her some days. How do I balance her annoying side with her love for my son. Sorry for going on. But has anyone been in similar situation.