AIBU leaving DD with babysitter when ill?

[LucyMae2]

Hi all, DH and I are going away over the weekend for a work event of his where he is receiving a reward. My niece is looking after DD (4) and DS (2). She has looked after them many times before and knows their bedtime routine really well. However DD has woken up this morning with a very upset stomach and has already had 2 accidents. I have put one of her bedtime pull ups on her just in case to give her a bit more dignity. We are going away for 2 nights but it's only about 3hrs away. AIBU still going?

I think it depends how poorly she feels/how competent your niece is/ does your niece object.

Personally I wouldn't go, but plenty will come and say they would.

I think it depends how poorly she feels/how competent your niece is/ does your niece object.

Personally I wouldn't go, but plenty will come and say they would.

I think it depends how poorly she feels/how competent your niece is/ does your niece object.

Personally I wouldn't go, but plenty will come and say they would.

Could your DH go today and you join him tomorrow?

I don't think I'd leave my young child in someone else's care if they're really poorly. Tots need their parent/s when they're ill.

If I were your niece, I'd not be thrilled to be looking after a poorly child who might puke or have diarrhoea, have piles of laundry, have disturbed sleep, not be able to take them out of the house, be worried that the shh oh bling will catch it, be worried that I would catch it.

Could your DH go today and you join him tomorrow?

I don't think I'd leave my young child in someone else's care if they're really poorly. Tots need their parent/s when they're ill.

If I were your niece, I'd not be thrilled to be looking after a poorly child who might puke or have diarrhoea, have piles of laundry, have disturbed sleep, not be able to take them out of the house, be worried that the shh oh bling will catch it, be worried that I would catch it.

Could your DH go today and you join him tomorrow?

I don't think I'd leave my young child in someone else's care if they're really poorly. Tots need their parent/s when they're ill.

If I were your niece, I'd not be thrilled to be looking after a poorly child who might puke or have diarrhoea, have piles of laundry, have disturbed sleep, not be able to take them out of the house, be worried that the shh oh bling will catch it, be worried that I would catch it.

I’d be wary of going - I suspect your daughter would be fine, but it’s shitty (sorry) for the babysitter.

Yeah I am personally in two minds, my niece does work in a nursery and I have told her already that she isn't very well and she said it's not an issue. I will probably keep DD in a pull up until it slows down so at least it's contained. She hasn't been sick yet thankfully, it just looks like a tummy bug that could subside later.

If its not until tomorrow then decide then? I probably wouldn't but what does you do say? She might want her mum especially at night. Plus risk of passing it on to your nirce

I was going to say YABU, but your niece works in a nursery so knows what she's dealing with, is aware and still happy and likely has the immune system thats comes with working with young dc- If your dc is comfortable with them and not especially ill outside of the physical symptom I'd probably still go

If it is diarrhoea and your niece is aware and ok with it then I would say that's fine. Make sure there's plenty of soap, pull-ups and an empty washing machine. If it develops to sickness then don't go it wouldn't be fair on your niece. Come straight home if she is sick after you leave.

As someone else who works in a daycare centre and had gastro over Christmas thanks to patients sending their sick children into the centre. I think , YABU.

No way would I go. Tummy bugs spread easily, so one I'll child can quickly become two. Not fair on babysitter so deal with that. Also poorly kids want their parents.

You need to stay home. That's life with small children unfortunately. Your DH will still receive his reward without you there, and your DD needs you more.

So what if it spreads ( very likely ) and not only your other child but your neice gets poorly?

2 small children to look after 24/7 over a long period of time is different to working a shift in a nursery imo

They may want you at bedtime

Your neice may be being polite and deep down feels like she can't say no

I personally wouldn't go unless they feel better and be leaving them 100 well, not actually leaving them unwell to begin with

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