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Gender reveal and childhood parenting memories

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Lotzana · 11/01/2023 15:49

I've found out I'm having a little girl for my first born and obviously really happy but for some reason it's made me remember my own experience of being a little girl, which wasn't always very happy.

I had two brothers and I was always the dramatic and troublesome girl in the family. My parents were quite emotionally immature at the time and used to label me things like selfish and dramatic while my brothers seemed much easier to manage for them. Looking back I was a spirited and outgoing child but didn't deserve those labels and I think it had a profound effect on me for many years until i had therapy. No child of 5 should be told they are selfish or dramatic for expressing themselves.

Because of all of this I'm a bit nervous about being a girl mum in case history somehow repeats itself. Part of me hoped for a boy as I assumed, like my brothers, they'd be easier to manage but I think my view is skewed by the past here.

Is it normal to be worried about parenting like this?

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Marlena1 · 11/01/2023 20:24

Congratulations OP! There are things that my parents did that I didn't like and as a result I'm conscious of not repeating history. Eg my mom constantly talked about diets and weight which made me have an unhealthy relationship with food when I was younger. You'll be so much more aware of doing what was done to you. Also you don't have older boys so the dynamic will be different.

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