AIBU to be offended?

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My DD was invited to her friend's house after school before Xmas. On the day the mum cancelled as some of the family were poorly

• of course no problem. She said she would rearrange with me the next week. Didn't hear anything all holiday even though I ran into her once. Again fair enough as the holidays are busy. Now two weeks back into school and no mention still. My DD keeps asking if I've rearranged and I just can't believe someone would be so rude as to revoke an invite and not rearrange when children are involved, knowing how much the little ones look forward to play dates etc.

AIBU?

I think you are being a little bit tightly wound. Most parents I have met will have dropped the ball at some point. Have you actually asked the other parent about rescheduling?

What is there to be offended about? The plan was for before the Christmas holidays and fell through. The Christmas period is notoriously busy, as is the start of the new year (getting back into routine, kids back to school etc), so maybe it’s just slipped her mind. If you’re bothered for your DD’s sake, why not message the mum and invite her over to yours?

Invite her DD round- sorted!

Or explained to your child that the family was poorly so the play date couldn't happen and that then they were probably very busy with Xmas and school holidays and need to get back into the swing of school and catch up with work or whatever. That there will be lots of opportunities for play dates and it will happen when it happens.

I think your reaction is a bit OTT no pre Christmas play date would be rearranged during holidays, everyone far too busy/ or ill during that time.

kids are just back at school now so time to rearrange will be back on radar.

however do remember it’s just a play date, not a contractural obligation the other party is yet to fulfil.

I completely agree and usually would just invite the friend to us. But I always invite this friend to us and it's hardly ever the other way around.

I think you’re being a bit OTT. Life is busy. Maybe your life is much less busy than hers, so a play date seems like a big event to you, and an easy to forget little thing for her

Yes. This would solve the issue.

She's probably forgotten.
You are being unreasonable to get wound up about this. It's not a big deal.
Just contact the Mum and either invite the other girl over or suggest that a play date would be nice.

Thanks all - I do get overly stressed about things so have obviously blown this out of proportion!

You are over thinking it. People are busy & forget

Invite her round. But if this happens repeatedly - happy to accept invitations but reluctant to host - you'll either need to accept that that's how it is with this family, or scale back the invitations. Not everyone can host, you'll be aware, so it may not be piss-taking.

Yes I would agree. Life happens and people forget. I'd either just leave it or else invite the other child round to yours.