Major mum guilt :(

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When I was pregnant I booked 2 city breaks for my partners 30th birthday, he didn’t want any gifts and I got the both of them for just under £600 together! So it was a steal :)

however , I was pregnant and underestimated how I’d feel once baby was here. DS is just turned 1.

we’ve been on one. DS stayed with my mum and dad and he was so happy! He adores them so it does put me at ease. But the whole weekend I just felt so guilty.

The next (and last city break until DS is like an adult lol) is approaching and I feel so guilty again :( he’s happy going to his grandmas he loves his grandparents.

am I a horrible mum :( I feel so bad and last time we were in the airport and I had a glass of Prosecco and I felt relaxed for a minute before I felt horrendous for enjoying that moment

Ha! Want to trade? Would love for family to take my one year old so we can go on a weekend away!

If your baby is in safe hands, he'll be fine! Do you have a babysitter in the evening or do family look after him at night? If so do you feel guilty then?

What is there to feel guilty about? Do you think mothers shouldn't leave their baby? Does your DH feel any guilt?

Just go, relax and have a good time. Your baby will get to spend quality time building a strong bond with people that love him.

What is there to feel guilty about? Do you think mothers shouldn't leave their baby? Does your DH feel any guilt?

Just go, relax and have a good time. Your baby will get to spend quality time building a strong bond with people that love him.

Jesus, you’re not a horrible mum!! If you are I am too, I left mine at 6 weeks for a night away, 3 months for a long weekend abroad and 13 months for a week away long haul. It was magic! Sure, I missed the kids but being away was glorious, I was a person again without our mini mes, I could sleep whenever, drink, dance, do whatever I wanted. Absolutely awesome!

it’s ok to have time away. Your baby is safe, happy and loved, give yourself a break and have some adult only fun which I really mean to be sleep 😉

Ha! Want to trade? I would love family to have my baby for a weekend!

Do you feel guilty if/when you use babysitters for an evening?

Jesus, you’re not a horrible mum!! If you are I am too, I left mine at 6 weeks for a night away, 3 months for a long weekend abroad and 13 months for a week away long haul. It was magic! Sure, I missed the kids but being away was glorious, I was a person again without our mini mes, I could sleep whenever, drink, dance, do whatever I wanted. Absolutely awesome!

it’s ok to have time away. Your baby is safe, happy and loved, give yourself a break and have some adult only fun which I really mean to be have some sleep 😂

Stop feeling guilty for having a lovely weekend whilst your toddler also has a lovely weekend having fun and bonding with his grandparents. These weekends would be good for both of you if you let go of the guilt. Does your husband feel guilty too?

Nah OP, enjoy it!

Think of all you do for your little one. If anything a break is important- you can come back with more energy and freshness etc.

If you don't go you will depriving your parents (or in laws) of a weekend that they will never have the opportunity to have again. They'll be knackered when you get back but it will be their only chance to make the happy memories of your son all to themselves for a whole weekend just as he starts to crawl/walk/babble/try interesting new foods.

Have a great weekend!

If you don't go you will depriving your parents (or in laws) of a weekend that they will never have the opportunity to have again. They'll be knackered when you get back but it will be their only chance to make the happy memories of your son all to themselves for a whole weekend just as he starts to crawl/walk/babble/try interesting new foods.

Have a great weekend!

If you don't go you will depriving your parents (or in laws) of a weekend that they will never have the opportunity to have again. They'll be knackered when you get back but it will be their only chance to make the happy memories of your son all to themselves for a whole weekend just as he starts to crawl/walk/babble/try interesting new foods.

Have a great weekend!

I think you're setting an insanely (and pointlessly) high bar. You didn't stop being a person with wants and needs when you had your baby. If he is safe, clean, fed and loved, that's all that matters. Go, let go of the guilt and enjoy that glass of wine !

Thanks everyone I’m sorry. Someone made a comment last time I was away (I posted a picture of me and DH on my story) and said “you’re so good for leaving him I still haven’t left my 3yo!”

So I just felt like is it abnormal to leave him?

DH doesn’t feel guilty. He made a point about our relationship with our grandparents and we have such fond memories growing up with ours. I was always with my nana and grandad during any school holidays and we had lots of sleepovers.

so I know from my sons POV it’s beneficial ! I don’t know why I find it hard to relax

I blame social media for "mum guilt".

I remember my parents gleefully dropping me and my siblings off for weekends at my grandparents. I remember gleefully dropping off my own kids at their grandparents for a weekend and I gleefully drop one of them off at Uni now!

Enjoy your weekend, don't post on social media and you'll enjoy it more. You don't have to forget your child exists for the weekend, but you can acknowledge the freedoms that come from not actively parenting for a few days and the good it does for you both as a couple.