13 and 16 refusing contact with Dad

[Emm220884]

Hi all,
Please help, what do I do when my kids refuse contact with their dad.
They've not seen him alone for 8(ish) years, in that time he's moved to a different country and back, for the last 4/5 years they have seen him a few times a year, in Starbucks for 1,5-2 hours.
They've told him that they want it to stop. They will contact him when they want to see him, but he feels that this is "unacceptable" and is demanding that I make the boys see him.
I've explained that at their ages, it's physically impossible.
We have no legal childcare agreement. What the hell do I do? x

Tell him that the children don't want to see him at the moment, encourage him to still send cards etc. Encourage your children to make/engage in phone calls with their Dad. He needs to make an effort with them.
Has he done anything or do they just feel he isn't that interested?
If ex continues to pester you, tell him you're doing the above and he's welcome to seek legal advice, but even a Court Order won't make the children actually get up and go with him so he's likely wasting his money.

You don't need to do anything. If you've told him their wishes, that's the end of the matter. He can choose to pursue it through the family court if he wants to go down a legal route, but he'd be wasting his time given their ages, unless there are extenuating circumstances. Don't encourage them to have phone contact and don't encourage him to send cards etc if that conflicts with their wishes. It is okay for them to change their minds and contact him if that happens. It sounds like he's reaping what he sowed, then blaming you. Please support your sons.