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LeaCBee · 2023-01-09T15:34:42+00:00

I'm really struggling, I have 2 boys just over a year apart. I love them both, recently I have found myself not coping as well, getting snappy and frustrated. Youngest is 5 months, older is 19 months. I feel like life is just at a standstill (groundhog day if you will). Maternity leave will end in 2 months and although I'm looking forward to going back and maybe finding myself again a little, I'm also dreading trying to manage work, when I'm already struggling. I dunno guess I'm just looking for someone to tell me it's normal and life won't forever feel so lost. When did it get easier for you?

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TheVeryHungryTortoise · 09/01/2023 15:40

Just reaching out to say that you are not alone! I only have one child who is now 4, but remember those early years well. The complete and utter relentlessness of everything and how each day is indistinguishable from the next nearly killed me. I was diagnosed was postnatal depression quite early on and have been on antidepressants since. It's not the case for everyone of course, but I have found antidepressants invaluable in coping with what you are describing. Would you want to discuss this with your GP and see if they can offer any support?

TheVeryHungryTortoise · 09/01/2023 15:44

Oh, and, of course life as your knew it is not lost. I'm trying to remember when things became easier for me and I think that I personally started to enjoy parenting and life more when he was 3 years +. I really value being able to have a conversation with him and interact in a more stimulating way.

strawberrysummer23 · 09/01/2023 16:14

@LeaCBee no advice but solidarity and hugs
I have a 5.5 month old and feel like it's hard work and you have another one so hats off to you. I think it gets easier gradually and once they are a toddler. That was my experience anyway. I have an 11 yr old and confirm it does get easier !

I also dread the thought of going back to work!

It really does get easier, promise

In the mean time post on here for support, eat well, rest when you can, don't feel guilty for feeling this way, just try and get through the days and have treats and things you enjoy for things to look forward to.

It's bloody hard work, you are not alone and doing amazing x

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LeaCBee · 09/01/2023 18:53

TheVeryHungryTortoise · 09/01/2023 15:44

Oh, and, of course life as your knew it is not lost. I'm trying to remember when things became easier for me and I think that I personally started to enjoy parenting and life more when he was 3 years +. I really value being able to have a conversation with him and interact in a more stimulating way.

Thank you, okay so only another year for one of them and 2.5 years for the other. Everything is just starting to feel so overwhelming, even simple chores. I have got bipolar but haven't been on my medications since falling pregnant with my first so I think that's going to be my first port of call to get those back and hopefully that will help. Thank you so much for your response and it's so nice to hear that I'm not on my own in struggling.

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LeaCBee · 09/01/2023 18:55

strawberrysummer23 · 09/01/2023 16:14

@LeaCBee no advice but solidarity and hugs
I have a 5.5 month old and feel like it's hard work and you have another one so hats off to you. I think it gets easier gradually and once they are a toddler. That was my experience anyway. I have an 11 yr old and confirm it does get easier !

I also dread the thought of going back to work!

It really does get easier, promise

In the mean time post on here for support, eat well, rest when you can, don't feel guilty for feeling this way, just try and get through the days and have treats and things you enjoy for things to look forward to.

It's bloody hard work, you are not alone and doing amazing x

Thank you so much for your response, it is really comforting to know that others struggle too, not that I wish the struggle on anyone.
Yeah having them so close was not in the plan, but contraception failed me, safe to say I am done at 2 though.
I'm seriously dreading going back to work as I am going to be studying as well so I'm going to have no time for anything what with that and mothering and housework. I think I must have a few screws loose somewhere 🤦‍♂️.

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Madeintowerhamlets · 09/01/2023 19:03

TheVeryHungryTortoise · 09/01/2023 15:40

Just reaching out to say that you are not alone! I only have one child who is now 4, but remember those early years well. The complete and utter relentlessness of everything and how each day is indistinguishable from the next nearly killed me. I was diagnosed was postnatal depression quite early on and have been on antidepressants since. It's not the case for everyone of course, but I have found antidepressants invaluable in coping with what you are describing. Would you want to discuss this with your GP and see if they can offer any support?

Exactly the same boat here. Been on Sertraline since my daughter was around 8 months old & she’s now 4. It took me a while to realise I was depressed even though I’ve had depression before. Everything just felt like such a slog & I remember feeling so tired at the thought of it all. The Sertraline has been a huge help & I have found it much easier over the last year or so. You are not alone OP!

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LeaCBee · 10/01/2023 20:48

Madeintowerhamlets · 09/01/2023 19:03

Exactly the same boat here. Been on Sertraline since my daughter was around 8 months old & she’s now 4. It took me a while to realise I was depressed even though I’ve had depression before. Everything just felt like such a slog & I remember feeling so tired at the thought of it all. The Sertraline has been a huge help & I have found it much easier over the last year or so. You are not alone OP!

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Thank you so much, its horrible to hear that others are going through the same but there is a comfort in knowing we're not alone. ❤️

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