3 1/2 year age gap siblings.. will they still be close

[miniworry]

We have a 2 year old and We were planning on TTC our second child once we get married, however work situations have meant that I need to delay TTC so that I'm not pregnant until after Easter (redundancies coming up and I don't want any reason to be considered).

The thing is we wanted a max 3 year age gap because I've read so much about the 'close bond' being similar ages but now I'm worried that the age gap might be too big for them to be really close.

Please could you share your stories and thoughts?

I am also aware there's absolutely nothing to say it may take us years to actually conceive,
I'm just referring to 'ideal world'.

also how you parent to some extent.

Just realised that the post I quoted had this line. I didn't actually mean to agree with that bit, LOL!

I don't believe that anything we could have done would have made our two be close, regardless of age gap or parenting techniques. They were the type of children that would have completely avoided each other at school. They had no compatible interests and very opposing personalities. Both were well adjusted kids but they would never have chosen to interact if they weren't related.

But now (late teens and early 20s) they can actually interact nicely for a decent amount of time 😀

There's 3 years and a month between my dh and his brother. They've never gotten along. It'd about personality really more than age.

A good friend of mine gave me an excellent truism.

A person only needs one decent parent to turn out ok.

And by parent she meant 'solid influence'.

There's 34 years between my oldest sister and my youngest brother.

3 1/2 years is nothing.

3.5 year age gap here and it's great! I think anything under 5 years is decent play mate / similar interests territory.