Is two and not potty trained a problem?

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We keep attempting to potty/toilet train and I think we aren't doing very well. DD sits on toilet/potty and enjoys wiping her bum, but not much else. Is it a problem she's not showing interest yet and is there anything I should do to help her?

No

not a problm
if she's not showing interest I'd stop and wait til she does - lotsof hard work for you otherwise if she isn't ready or interested

no problem, she's not ready. Make life easy on yourself and leave it 2/3 months and then try again. So So much easier when they're really ready

No

yes !! ds is 2 in a week and i will be taking him out of nappies soon - groan!
i think folk leave them in too long in western culture now - 10 years ago all children were dry by 2.5 but now it is later

ds can go hours without weeing so i guess it is time!

No not at all, my understanding is that girls tend to be ready round about 2 and half, boys slightly later. I'd wait a while longer, having a bit more language, being able to help get herself dressed etc will all help to make the process easier. Our dd is 2 & 4.5months, she's initiated things herself - lots of her wee pals are slightly older so she's watched friends gradually going into pants which has helped her get an idea of the whole thing. We're having a few teething probs and I'm debating wether or not to back track and leave it another few months at the min.

No. dd (2 next month) is the same - likes to get loo roll & sit on potty and says "I poo" but never actually done anything yet!
Am thinking of doing the pantless thing in summer and see how we get on

PS Paula Yates - I know I wasn't dry at 2.5 and that was a lot longer than 10 years ago

ds is 2 yrs 8 months and won't have a bar of it. i'm not worried though ...

i have tried and gone-back to nappies with one of mine but with the others just took nappy off - a week of hell then the worsts over

mine 19months 20months 2 and a half 26 months ...dreading it but he seems to old for a pooey bum - personal opinion and not everyone's i know

I think it is a myth that all children were potty trained really early. I think more likely that parents look back with rose tinted glasses and forget! Certainly most of the children whose parents I know who can remember say their children were later, definitely not under 2yo - many closer to 3yo. And we are talking about 20-30 years ago with that!

A 2yo not being potty trained is definitely not a problem! Many children are nearer or just after 3yo.

If you potty train when the child is ready it will be a very simple procedure and should require little imput from yourself, as your child leads the way. Should be over and done with within days, certainly not taking serveral weeks or months.

There are the odd child who will be ready earlier - although it is extremely unusal for under 18 months.

DD was ready at 24 months and was sorted within 3 days - she led the way and did it all,

Some 3yo may not be ready.

Um still working on this with a 3 year old ds - he is finally getting the hang of it, but we have been at it for over 2 months now. Some kids just master the art earlier than others .

Language and the ability to communicate it all is a huge benefit! When DD was ready she had the language ability to tell me and talk to me about it all, and to understand exactly what was happening, and understand simpl instructions.

No not a problem, just wait a while and try again.
My DS1 and DD1 were dry from just before their third birthdays. Must admit that I was lazy about training them though as always busy with younger ones. Am dreading when my DTs (13mths) are old enough to start.

my dd was quick at evrything. crawling at 5mths. walking at 10 mths. Conversations at 12mths! potty trainingt took her till 3 to master! She's now nearly 4 and not dry at night. Not a problem for me. i just think they master it at different ages adn they have to lead it. If you try to push it it takes longer.

completely depends on the child their language, physically able to use loo etc.
DS was 2.2yrs and out of the blue he said no nappies and 4mths later was out of night aswell.

DD1 we trained over christmas but that is only because it was the only whole week I had at home until easter and she had shown signs for about 4mths She was 2 the week before and 2 days into training refused night nappies aswell. she was obviously very ready as she hasnt had a single night accident since.

no

really, really really no

No. And alhtough my mum has no idea when I was out of nappies, my sister came out the same time as I did. So I guess I was, minimum, age 2 1/2 and she was, minimum, 18 months - in fact, probably older because she actually said 'no nappies' and she hardly spoke until she was 2.

I really don't get why it should be a problem whatever age they're in or out of nappies. Developmentally speaking, it means sod all, and if you try them before they're ready, you end up trailing potties everywhere AND spare clothes AND apologising to shop assistants because your child has weed on the floor. OK, so a bit of a generalisation there, but it definitely seems, from what I've seen, to be much more of a faff if you do it before the child is ready. And since every child is different, you can't just say 'OK you're 2. Here's the knickers and the potty.'

when i trained my first 15 years ago most parents did it same time - i took my lead from them

i agree if not ready it takes ages but my ds has shown no inkling of wanting to go to a potty but holds urine 3 hours in the daytime

i would rather for him - his little bum be in fresh cotton than a nappy so i will train him from a standing start soon

Sorry, just realised that the first para of my last post should have added: so the 'dry at 2' 10 years ago is a bit of a myth, coz that was pushing 40 years ago.

Thanks all for this. It's really encouraging and supportive. The language thing is def true...DD never stops gassing but won't wee in the loo. Tried her without a nappy a few weeks ago as we were getting ready for a rare night out with friends. As I was straightening my hair she was standing next to me and said "Oh dear Mammy...I weed." She ran into the bathroom to get some toilet paper to clean it up then came back in to watch me putting my makeup on. Two minutes later and still in no nappy, she looked at the floor and said "Oh NO Mammy, I pooed. I pooed a circle and another and another circle". I really panicked and looked down to see what she was pointing at was the knots in our stripped pine floor boards!. So you see, she knows, but just not where to put it!

My ds was 3 when he fully mastered potty training and this seemed very normal for his friends. I can't see any point in rushing a child who simply isn't ready to do it as it makes the whole process long and stressful.