Cosleeping curiosity

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Hello!

Just an upbeat question really as I’m lying here wide awake through my own anxiety and depression.

How like physically how do parents cosleep with infants? Like obviously for breastfeeding mothers it’s a bit different as they feed for comfort and BF mums are superhero’s for the amount of feeds they do single handed. I’m more wondering for parents who co sleep with their babies who are bottle fed.

I personally didn’t co sleep with either of our older children and haven’t with our 7 month old as I feel it’s unsafe and uncomfortable sleeping with a small one when there’s two adults in the bed.

The random question just popped into my head as our 7 month old is teething and has been grizzling for hours with finally waking up full blown teething cries (he’s got his second, third and forth tooth all coming in one go). I got him up and snuggled him in bed with me for 5 while partner got pjs on and went to the loo and thought how on earth do people co sleep?! All he wants to do when in bed or on the end with me is claw my eyes, nose, mouth and ears and that’s not even going into the hair pulling (little scamp knows the most painful areas of my scalp to pull on) and then there’s the wriggling and rolling. I think I’d have a mental breakdown if I had to co sleep with our little money 😂

Just wanting opinions, maybe our monkey is one of an evil, weakness seeking kind and sees into our soul to know exactly how to inflict torture and every other baby in the world are little angels who snuggle to their hearts content….

Just wanting to say autocorrect changed on the bed with on the end also I’m not calling him our little money, he’s a monkey, through and through a cheeky little scamp of a monkey. Thanks

I sleep in a separate room in a king bed, baby (now toddler) is in her own sleep sack. She goes to sleep on my chest or breastfeeding when we were still feeding, then when she was deep I'd lay her on the empty half of the bed. I'd have a light duvet for me i would wrap underneath and around me like a sleeping bag, and one pillow which would be kept far away from her. I have a pool noodle under the sheet on the edge of the bed to stop her rolling off.

When she woke in the night I'd feed her back down, but we aren't breastfeeding anymore so generally now she'll just reach out and touch me and go back to sleep, or occasionally come over for a cuddle and I'll have to lay her back down again.

She only sometimes claws me when she's overtired and mad about it before she goes down for the night.

I was BF so my DD used to just feed and fall asleep, no clawing or tugging. She liked to sleep really, really close but barely moved. We stopped co-sleeping regularly at about 10 months -she was a bit more active then but still pretty good. I loved it, I really miss it and if DD is ill and in my bed (she’s 3 now) we cuddle up just the same as we did when she was teeny.

I have a Superking bed though and don’t share a room with DH anyway (he has his own big bed!) so I know that makes it easier.

Hi, I currently cosleep with my 7 month old and he’s formula fed. We’ve been cosleeping since the 4 month sleep regression as it was the only way to get some sleep at the time!
DS isn’t in our bed though, we use the sidecar cot method (normal size cot just with the side taken off and pushed up against our bed) - we got lucky as the cot mattress lines up perfectly with our mattress. We also have a super king bed so plenty of room anyway.

This really works for us as DS is in his own space but he’s close by for a cuddle/pop the dummy back in if needed. It is a pain going downstairs in the middle of the night to make a bottle but he only wakes once for a feed in the night so I don’t mind! I am hoping to put the side back onto the cot in the next few weeks as DS can army crawl now so I’m worried he’ll crawl off the end of the bed while we’re sleeping (unlikely as I wake at the slightest noise he makes, the only downside of cosleeping imo)

At the end of the day I think you have to do what’s best for you and baby to both get some sleep!

We coslept very early on when it became clear DD would not settle anywhere other than near a breast!

I was nervous at first but its natural now - we are still there at 2.5 but most nights I get decent long chunks in my own bed. DD doesnt move much in her sleep.

DH slept in another room as I felt too squashed.

I sleep worse in my own bed now!

Maybe it's mainly BF mum's who do it...my DC lie next to me while I breastfeed them and fall asleep feeding and basically don't move (or at least not in first few months). Then perhaps once they are bigger and more wiggly they have come to associate the parents bed with sleep whereas if it's not the norm I would imagine going in mum and dad's bed would feel like a novelty and might wake the child up. Ive got very used to a bit of kicking and wiggling as well and sort of find it weird if I'm in bed by myself.