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Nursery Settling

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Hopingandwaiting2021 · 05/01/2023 14:48

I'll be honest I'm just hoping for positive stories.... We've started settling sessions at nursery this week and my wee boy is finding it hard. He's only used to being with me or DH as we don't really have family support. Can they go from struggling to last a morning to settled?! Will he ever take a nap there?!? SOS

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PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 05/01/2023 14:50

He will hopefully settle
Most children do
Just keep at it

How many days / times will he do when he starts? How many settling sessions has he got?

SBAM · 05/01/2023 14:54

How old is he?

Mine both settled pretty quickly, around 9-10 months, and the older one changed nurseries when she was 2 as we moved, and she settled well there. In all cases I was fairly relaxed/not stressed as I was happy with the nurseries I chose.
Some children do find it tougher, but nursery staff are incredibly baby whisperers. Both my children were taught to self settle at nursery and napped well there.

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Hopingandwaiting2021 · 05/01/2023 15:03

Thanks for your replies! I really hope so as I think he'd love a lot of it as he's a social wee man and likes a lot of action!

He's got four sessions then will do two full days and one morning per week. He's just turned one. Xx

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Nuttynuttyjob · 05/01/2023 15:48

He will settle. They kind of copy the other children too - so I found my daughter slept and ate better at nursery because she was just following the lead of others.

(Unfortunately this also means when one gets upset the rest can follow - which is why January starts are hard since children have had the long Christmas/NY break and are all getting used to it again).

mine was 5.5 months old when she started so bless her she’s never known any different but we are very much like you in that we don’t have any other support around us so it’s nursery setting and us.

LifeChangingParentingWithFee · 05/01/2023 16:12

The fact he's going to be at nursery 2.5 days per week will definitely help him settle. He will quickly get used to the routine there, the staff and love playing with his new friends! Good luck and I hope he has a fantastic time there!

Catterpillarwithconverse · 05/01/2023 16:19

Mine also weren't used to other people and settled well. But them crying when you drop off isn't nessesarily a sign that they aren't enjoying it, it's about the adjustment.

SalviaOfficinalis · 05/01/2023 16:22

He will settle.
Mine cried at drop off the first few times, and on his first full day got upset in the afternoon too.

But since then he’s loved it. He’s a very shy boy but he toddles in happily enough and gives one of the staff a cuddle every morning and then sits down for some breakfast.

Also with the napping, it’s easier for them to nap than at home because all the other children are lying down, they kind of have to.

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Hopingandwaiting2021 · 05/01/2023 18:01

Thank you all for the positivity and kind words! Hoping in a few weeks time he'll be happily running in and causing chaos with his wee friends x

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CoalCraft · 05/01/2023 19:44

DD was a lockdown baby so had hardly seen anyone but me and DH when she started nursery at 9 months. She was unsettled the first week then completely fine. Still loves it now at 2 years!

Mummyboy1 · 05/01/2023 19:46

As he's going 2.5 days then he most likely will settle quickly, it's harder when it's just the one day a week! You'll slowly notice less tears or crying for less time. It's hard but try not to drag out the goodbyes, it just drags it out.

RumbJ · 06/01/2023 21:10

First time mum here…my 9mo old baby is starting nursery in a weeks’ time. His teething has thrown off his weaning plus eczema(severe). He only BF refused bottle, drinks water from sippy cup but not EBM. He will be fulltime 8-5pm. Im just so worried he will starve. I have to work financially cnt afford to do less hours either. Nursery is the only option for us after looking at all other options. He has tried a range of food groups but as soon as teething started he turns away from food and wont feed by spoon or finger foods. Anyone else dealth with this before? Thank u!

Mrsmch123 · 06/01/2023 22:55

My boy started at 1 year old. He was always fine going in i till about a month ago(18 months now) we had a few tears at drop of about a month ago but I did a bright and breezy have a nice day and went on my way. He goes in no bother now. We do have a massive issue with sleep tho as he just won't/can't sleep well there. He's used to 2 hr day time sleep but manages a hour on a really good day and 15 mins on a bad🙈he's super grumpy they days but we just have an early bedtime. He only goes 2 full day a week which i think is a sufficient amount of time. Your boy will settle in sure.

PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 06/01/2023 22:57

4 settling sessions isnt many…
Can you request more?
to cover Morning, Then afternoon, then a lunch time , and A sleep time?
If he hasnt got older siblings, expect hom to get poorly alot
I always told parents to start Children atleast 2 months before they went back to work, because they likely would catch everything going

PleaseCleanTheWholeToilet · 06/01/2023 22:59
  • Get poorly alot for the first month or so
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