My oldest daughter is 8 and at Easter time last year we moved house and she started in a new school. She is sociable and happy but there is one area that is causing me and my DH to disagree.
For context I am an introvert and a home-body. I love being with my family and get a bit of social anxiety. My DH is an extrovert, will happily chat to everyone and anyone and has a really nice way about him. Very positive nature. My 8 year old is a bit of a mix. She does a lot of activities that she is good at and loves. But at school she likes to spend her break times playing by herself. She has made friends and will sometimes play with them but says she just likes to play on the equipment at school and not have to do what others want her to do.
I am fine with this, I like to be by myself sometimes especially when I have been around a lot of people. I have told her it is fine. However, my DH picked her up from school yesterday and when she got in she was quiet and not herself. It turns out that my DH has told her that she should be more sociable and make an effort to play with people. I told her that she could do what made her feel comfortable. She started to cry saying that she does play with other kids but other times she doesn't.
He has made her think it is a big issue and I had to speak to him and tell him that not everyone is like her. He is a teacher so seems to think he has the right to say these things...am I going crazy?
She has never been one to have a best friend - but is very popular, she gets invited to most of the parties in her class and had 20 kids at her party. The parents tell me that their kids think she is funny and she has invites to play dates often.
I have put my foot down and told him to stop saying things like that to her...but should I be worried. Anyone else have kids like this? I am questioning myself.