Best sleep training

[strawberrysummer23]

My little one is coming up to 6months

I just want to add I do not want to let her cry it out and I didn't with my first ( she's now 11 ) but I forgot what I did

Little one sleeps ok but she's not in a set routine with timings and each day is different

She does however has a bath,pjs, story and then bed - bottle if she due but she still has a feed in the night
We cuddle her and out her down drowsy and tickle her face and then leave the room
Sometimes she's already asleep eyes close or sometimes she's still closing her eyes but each day is different and sometimes she will want more of a cuddle but where she's so young still just rolling with it

Last night she went to bed at 7pm, fed at 1am, up at 6am

The problem with sleep for us is how noisy she is ! We share sleep because of it and it's how we are getting though and have done this since day 1 as we just don't get enough sleep otherwise

Anyway we are moving her into her own room soon and need to/want to follow a sleep plan for when she does wake/stir as she does often stir/wake in the night. Mainly for dummy and we rarely have to pick her up. Sometimes it's just a cry out with no settle needed but then we are awake or whoever is in with her then is wide awake

So not sure if that's good sleep for her age? She isn't sleeping through like some you read from this age or younger ! but she isn't also a terrible sleeper and does long stretches I guess, we are just tired where she is no noisy so her being in her own room will hopefully feel better with that

Anyway I'd ideally like a book where it can help with how to settle and to learn to self settle and stick to a routine without forming bad habits

We never let our eldest in to our bed ever - co sleeping was just not for us and we then had a brilliant sleeper from a young age ( can't remember when !) so we'd like to do the same with our baby.

But I'm a bit anxious of her being in the room alone when currently we have a next to me cot where we can settle her with just reaching out to her so it's a big step

Hoping to move around the next month but in no rush really

Thanks all x

If she’s in bed for 11 hrs and only waking once, at six months old, then you are already winning and I have no advice.

I’m hearing that you want a book with sleep advice. I read all the books and none of their suggestions worked on my baby. I wouldn’t bother with them tbh just keep doing what you are doing and accept that it’s normal to be exhausted when you have a baby.

You could try the Gentle Sleep book but as I said it all failed for me.

She’s doing amazingly!

I always recommend Dr Ferber’s book because it’s really good at explaining how sleep works. (and no, it’s not cry it out).

I still use our video monitor and DS is nearly 2. It’s very reassuring when they’re in a different room.

Not sure you need to sleep train? 1 night feed is decent and will probably naturally drop once weaning gets going. Noisy sleep that wakes you shouldn’t be an issue when she’s in her own room. If all other wakes are for a dummy replace then by 6-7 months babies can generally replace it themselves but you need to put a lot (we used to do 10!) in the cot to ensure they can find one.

Yeah she's doing really well I guess. I think it's the amount of times she stir is for the dummy - it's usually around 3-4am and it can be around 10! So just conscious when she is in her own room she may feel disturbed as she's not near us

I guess we can keep going with what we are doing - just figured I wanted to understand sleep better and how to settle her if once shes in her big cot in her own room x

when she is in her own room she may feel disturbed as she's not near us
Maybe, maybe not. You don’t know until you try! If you do end up wanting a book then Ferber is good although his sleep training approach is cry based (not cry it out though). But if it is just dummy stirs then you’re thankfully almost at the point where you no longer have to be a part of that!

That's true I know I'm worrying about something that may not happen!

I think it's the cot, we sleep lots with our hands out on her chest sometimes when she does stir so I'm thinking she may miss that rather than just waking for the dummy but we shall see i guess!

X

And my husband doesn't even want her moved yet! It's me saying let's give it a go
We need to get her room sorted first so it's not ready as of yet

At 6 months old and waking once I'd say that's good going. My baby is 5 months and is awake hourly, if not more! Maybe when your baby is in their own room they will be less likely to wake as they won't hear you moving around etc?

@wishuponastar1988 oh really? Poor you that's tough. Mine is 5.5 months, it differs every night but roughly that's her pattern x