Will I ever sleep again

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DD is one (just turned) she’s never slept though never been the best sleeper.

when I hear people who have like 3/4month old babies and say “oh I feed them at 10pm then they sleep till 7am” I think HOW she never did that and even now wouldn’t

currently writing this after she’s finally just went asleep. She’s been awake since half 2. I gave some (cows) milk - nope. Cuddled her - nope. Rocked her - nope. Sang to her - nope.

nothing worked.

she has nights where she does this and I don’t get how she can be awake for 2 hours in the night? She goes to nursery so is definitely active in the day I don’t get it

olease help I’m so so so so tired

That sounds hard. There's some info here about when they're awake for a long stretch in the night, I found this website helpful for different sleep problems : www.babysleepsite.com/baby-sleep-patterns/baby-insomnia-split-night-why-and-how-to-fix/

Hope you get a better night's sleep tonight.

Everyone finds their own different solution so no pressure, do what works for you and your baby/family… For us we sleep trained at 6 months using an app called “little ones” and I would do it again in a heartbeat. Lots of support from sleep experts. Very little crying involved (if there had been we would have stopped)- I would definitely call this gentle sleep training and not “cry it out” - more just a schedule of sleeps, naps, meals and snack. The theory being that once the naps are in place the nights take care of themselves. Within a few days our son was sleeping through for 12 hours and napping well. It did give us less flexibility to be our and about during the day - not everyone’s cup of tea- but totally worth it for us. Our son is now 4 years and still sleeps 7-7 ish. Always sleeps well unless he is unwell.

ETo answer your question- yes you will sleep again!

It is horrible when your in it (especially when you get someone helpfully telling you to use an app that solver their babies sleep in two days - sorry @NutsandPuffs I know your post though well meant).

My two were terrible sleepers but gradually they got better. It wasn’t overnight it just happened slowly.

It will get better, but it’s hellish living through it!

Oh and then you hit peri menopause and wake up at 4.30am! Hence why I am on MN at this time.

This sounds very very hard. In your opinion why is she waking?? Is it just habit?
I would stick absolutely to a set bedtime routine and nap routine, live life by the clock! Is her room is dark, warm, Is she comfortable etc. Does she have a dummy or blankie? Can you introduce a sleep aid like this if she doesn’t have one - a teddy or favourite toy, that she has in her cot and at snuggle time so she associates it with sleep. It doesn’t matter if she plays in her cot by herself for ten fifteen mins etc. I would also start using music - the same music - every Time she goes down. DS is 1 next week, he has slept through since early, these are the things I have done. Blankie, dark room, exact same music during last cosy feed of the day and then I leave it on in his room for a bit. Same music at naps, it gives him something to listen to and just enough distraction I think to drop off. (He loves Barbara Milne on Spotify 😂) I also don’t rush in if he wines.. I wouldn’t leave him to full on cry but if he is v tired I don’t keep going in as it disturbs him repeatedly. What size feed is she having before bed? I give a 9oz bottle to see him though the night. You must be both knackered - I’m sure you’re already doing all or some of the above so hope it’s not patronising, hope things improve for you v soon ie from tonight!!! xxxx

I love this app

ThNks for all your messages it’s so hard I wrote this post while sobbing :( I feel sick and have a headache but I have to go to work and try do my job

its crazy because it’s happening so often I don’t know what it is. She goes to nursery 4 days a week then 1 day with grandma and the weekend with us. We adapted our routine to nursery’s so it’s quite consistent every day! As much as we fab

She is pulling to stand and stepping which is new so maybe it’s a developmental thing? I did read that link thank you :)

I don’t want to wish the days away but it’s hard when you’re extremely sleep deprived

Is she crying/screaming when she wakes? If she’s just rolling around or whinging I would leave her for a little bit to see if she naturally goes back off? I wonder if you being there is stimulating her?

It really won’t be forever 💐

I do think that when they have a developmental leap it fucks up their sleep a bit. Is it possible she is teething?? If you give calpol does that make any difference? If you’re confident it’s not the environment and she’s not hungry, and she’s grizzly, I would give some calpol half an hour before bed and see if that helps. Mine often wakes up in the night when he has a tooth coming! It seems to flare up just before bedtime, red cheeks and then poor sleep. Can you take any time off? Even a couple of days sick to get some rest. It’s so hard when the sleep doesn’t happen. Xxx

I would definitely try a light projector and music aswell if you haven’t already. You could leave it on so if she wakes she’s got something as a gentle distraction. You might find she goes back to sleep on her own! Resist going in unless she is really upset.. hard but she’ll be fine and better off for getting more sleep both you and her xxx

Sorry OP, I didn’t mean to appear to lack empathy for you and just say flippantly say “here, use this app, it worked for me!”.

My son woke every 1-2hours for the first 6 months, if he ever slept longer it was a miracle. At first I didn’t mind, figured I would embrace the “fourth trimester” and give him what he needed… but then it went on for so many months and I was about to lose my mind. I started to dread bed times/night time. I never mention the little ones app to anyone unless/until they mention they are struggling (if it ain’t broke don’t fix it right?) especially as I know some people hear the words “sleep training” and are automatically put off the idea.

I’m just so glad someone mentioned it to me when I was needing a solution. Absolutely there are other good solutions out there including apps, sleep consultants and so on and you will find what works for you. Good luck!

Look up 'split nights in babies.'

It's very normal for their biological clock to do this. Albeit tiring for us parents. It gets better OP.

Sending massive hugs, I've been there and it's hell. We've come out the other side now and I honestly never thought we would. It does get better, I hope it does for you soon xx

How are you getting on now OP??