Single parent moving house advice

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Hi all,

Myself and my husband split recently and myself and our son are moving out of army married quarters and have secured a rental property (a struggle but got there in the end!). I will be moving in the next few weeks, however I’ve never moved on my own let alone with our son. I don’t have any family around here but I have some lovely friends and colleagues who are going to help me move. Does anyone have any moving tips especially with a young child.

Also any single parents out there that could share a bit of advice on co-parenting? My husband won’t be able to have our son overnight as he will also have to leave the house and move back onto camp. He also doesn’t have a car so access to our son is going to be tricky to navigate. I’m finding it hard to stop mothering him as he just has no urgency to sort anything. We’re not moving far only a 20 minute bus ride but he hasn’t been the most proactive in doing things with our son out of the house or taking him places even the park.

Any advice or hand holding would be really appreciated.

I’ve moved three times as a single parent and the money for a decent removal firm is worth every penny. You can let them crack on with it and just focus on getting sorted at the new house with keys, admin and putting the kettle on.

Get one of those really big Luton vans if you can, that way you can do it in one go depending on how much stuff you have. If you start packing now you will be much closer by the time it gets to the move date. Like do a box a day, a small target or something. Declutter as you go!

Make sure you get security sorted before you move in. Window locks, doorbell camera's and alarms. This really helps you to feel secure in a new house at night, especially when you have a child. Also reasech reviews on the local doctors, dentist, schools and sign up asap.

Is there someone who can have you child for a few hours while the house is being emptied and the stuff going into the new place?
It will be a lot of organised chaos and depending on your son age he may get in the way with people moving heavy furniture etc and either he or one of your friends is injured.

Re your ex inability to plan and organise his life, that is his problem to deal with. You state for example you will be here at 9AM on Sat to pick your son up. How he gets there is his issue. If he is not there on time and no reasonable excuse for being late then you both leave the house and do something fun e.g. the park, bike ride etc. Don't make dad picking up your son into a big event, if he turns up great but if he doesn't appear then you don't have a distressed child to deal with as you are off doing something fun anyway.