My baby is the Grudge

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DS (7 months) makes the exact same sound as the children from the Grudge (deep, slow croaking) all through the night. I'm pretty sure it's happening during REM sleep, and will often result in crying if he's not resettled as it seems to begin waking him up. It is driving me to the point of despair because it's way too loud to sleep through so I haven't had more than 2 hours sleep since he was a newborn (and even then the maximum I got was 3), it's meant DP and I sleep separately which is putting massive strain on our relationship, and I've occasionally made DS cry because I've very abruptly said his name when he's been making the noise in the night and it's startled him awake and obviously left him scared. I'm honestly not going to be able to go back to work at this rate (I do 12+ hour shifts) because I'm so exhausted all the time, but I can't afford not to get paid. It's just so depressing.

I moved my DS to his own room at 4 months for this exact reason. He was SO noisy. Squeaking, grunting, squealing... all night long! And that was in addition to crying for feeds during the night. I was a sleep deprived wreck.

But after I put him in his own room, he slept better and so did I. Might be worth a try?

Start by putting him in his own room for naps and see how it goes. My DS slept so well in his own room during his first nap, that I put him in there for the night as well and that was it. Haven't looked back. He's now 6.5 months.

Might be worth a look at his throat. My niece (when 3-4) made awful noises all night, really loud, rattling breathing at times in the day and it turned out her tonsils were enlarged and blocking part of her airway. They ended up operating to remove them and the adenoids. She's fine now. Might be one for the doctor to look at.

@sanabria DS is left to sleep in our room by himself for the first portion of the night before I go to bed, although not a different room, it doesn't seem to make any difference whether someone is there or not. We previously tried naps in his own room and they would never extend past 30 minutes.

@SlagathaChristie it's not an anatomical abnormality, it's definitely something "behavioral" for want of a better word.