Second child guilt

[Doubletheuncertainty]

I have a 2.5 year old and 3 month old. Before having my second child I had felt guilty about the disruption to my elder daughter's young life but increasingly I just feel so guilty and sad for my littlest one. While in some ways I'm more relaxed as a parent, I also feel less able. He cries more than my first because I feel like I'm always juggling things and I often miss his cues, or can't time things quite right for when he needs them. My toddler still arguably gets the lion share of my time and attention.

I feel like he's not going to bond with me in the same way, or be as well looked after, and I'm really struggling with it.

Is this a common feeling and does it get better?

I can’t speak as a mum… but I’m an older sibling, similar age gap between my sister and I…. I’m sure our parents went through what you’re going through ….I’ve turned out perfectly fine, I don’t feel any less loved. Our bonds are different, but that’s ok… we’re different people so the bond should be unique.

You care, so you’ll be doing a brilliant job….. don’t put too much pressure on yourself, been a parent to little people is hard!

They will be fine don't worry! This is litterally what everyone feels when they have their second. I promise it doesn't take long till the little one is making their demands know and it equals out a bit. Right now just do your best and don't be hard on yourself xxx