Feeling terrible for shouting

[DarceyG]

I have been having a bit of stressful week, my 9 year DD behaviour has been challenging lately but I’ve managed to cope fairly well with it until today. Her unwillingness to take no for an answer pushed me too far and I shouted really loud driving home in the car. Made her cry now I feel horrendous and keep saying sorry. Just want a bit of support really that I’m not the only one who loses it🙁

I wouldn't be saying sorry, she pushed you too far and got both barrels.

Can you expand on what the conflict was about? Maybe shouting was warranted. Gentle parenting doesn't mean never expressing frustration at your child. Sometimes they are being tiny shits and absolutely need to see the effect their behavior has on you. Of course, it's not good parenting on general, but a one-off is entirely understandable and even effective.

These things happen, op. It's not the end of the world
She pushed you and you shouted. She will get over it.

Why should you feel awful for shouting? This generation's parenting has gone too far and has led some parents to think that expressing their anger is something terrible, to be regretted. It really isn't. Constant shouting isn't good but occasionally, children need it

Don’t feel bad it happens sometimes and you are human. Don’t keep apologising though once or twice is enough. It’s a tricky age as they are growing up and do challenges more but no means no when you say so - you DD needs to learn to accept that.

Thank you everyone. I don’t shout all the time but I really shouted this time. We went to get bubble tea she loves it but the place was closed and she demanded I drive into town. I said no and her behaviour was ridiculous. She is really really pushing back right now and because I’m already stressed I just couldn’t listen any longer.

I know everyone does shout at times I just feel like I shit when I do. I need to become a lot firmer as she is not like this with her dad as we are separated.