Going on holiday without kids

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Hi,

So I have a two year old and 5 month old.

My husband, whom I have been having big marriage issues with for months, is going on a massive lads holiday to usa in May for 5 days.

Now I'm thinking, if he gets to go away why shouldn't I? I have been at home with the kids for the last two years, not getting any time to myself and never being without them. Apart from when I gave birth I have never been away from my two year old overnight and only when he is at nursery during the day. My 5 month old I've been with every day.

I want to go to NYC with a girl friend in June, so the baby will be 11 months and my son 2rs 4 months.

I feel guilty the thought of leaving them for 4/5 days but I need some time for me. Especially with our marriage issues.

I seem to think people will frown against it...seems ok for the dad to go but not the mum!

What do others think?

Go.

Your children will benefit from a happier, decompressed Mum and your DH will learn that solo holidays work both ways.

Don't let the Mum guilt win.

Go.

Go!

Go and enjoy 😊

Id go

Definitely go!

Go if you feel it would do you good, although have you considered going away without the children as a couple? It might do wonders for your marriage issues.

I'm assuming you're not breastfeeding? Personally I'd be thinking that the baby in particular will be distressed at its primary care giver disappearing for days, and that comes above what's fair at this young age. So whether that's Mum or Dad, I'm saying it's quite selfish to go and I definitely wouldn't.

Definitely go away for a few days with a friend! It’ll be good for you.

Personally I’d start with a shorter trip of 2 nights away, badged as a “trial run”, and then the bigger 4-5 night NYC trip once baby is slightly older eg 18 months or something. My reason is that at 11 months the baby won’t understand and 4-5 nights is a long time for a primary carer to disappear, baby would be quite distressed and you might be too.

plus this way you get 2 breaks!

Yes! Do it OP.

I would stay home. Also, wait til things are better in your marriage. However, you could take more mini-breaks now, having your husband look after the kids when you do.