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What to do? 6 month old.

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Chester72 · 27/12/2022 18:59

Hi,

My 6 month old would definitely be described as “high needs”. Since birth she has been very intense, up until the age of 14 weeks I could never put her down even for a few seconds without hysterical crying and she wouldn’t go to anyone except for me. At 14 weeks, she calmed down slightly and will now happily go to her dad (until about 6pm when she only entertains me!!) but she still cries hysterically and won’t stop if anyone else holds her. She’s my DD2, DD1 is 3 years old. I’m wondering if anyone has any experience/advice as my baby just will not sleep unless on me/in a moving pram. She’s 6 months old and I’ve never once been able to put her down to sleep. She’s fed to sleep and I’ve tried every dummy out there but she wont take any. So on my days when I don’t have DD1 too I get our 3x a day so my baby can nap in the pram. The minute I stop she wakes up. On my days with both of them this just isn’t doable. I want to be able to get DD2 to nap in a cot or even to be able to put her to bed at night but every time I’ve tried at night to put her down she wakes up hysterically within minutes and it’s soul destroying. I’m always so tired and drained from my days with them both that I don’t have the energy to sit there for hours constantly resettling. So I give in and feed her to sleep downstairs and hold her until 10pm at which point I go upstairs to get a couple of hours and my husband then continues to hold her until she wakes. Then during the night she wakes hourly until about 3pm when I give in and co sleep. Even when co sleeping she wakes every 45mins/1 hour to go Back on the boob then quickly falls asleep. But I really struggle to sleep co sleeping. I’ve had a call with a “gentle” sleep consultant but for a package it costs way over what we can afford. I’m just wondering how long this could last for or how on earth I can get her into any kind of routine when I have my toddler too.

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Richtea67 · 27/12/2022 19:21

Hi OP, this sounds so difficult. I don't have a huge amount or advice I'm afraid, as my DD2 is 13 weeks and just like yours....so I may be in your position in 3 months time! With my first child a comforter helped to settle her. Snuggling this also helped her find her thumb, which I know isn't ideal for everyone, but has been such a comfort to her and so helpful for sleep. We're currently trying to get DD2 attached to a comforter now (with our supervision), which I think will help if we go down the sleep training route in a few months time. I'm guessing you've tried all the usual white noise, your used t shirt etc. Is it possible for you to go to bed earlier than 10pm? Would she take a bottle of expressed milk or formula to give you more of a break? You can also get gadgets that jiggle the pram, maybe this would work for you indoors?? I'm sure someone will be along with some good advice, and hope you find something that works.

PritiPatelsMaker · 27/12/2022 19:28

Has she had a proper Tongue Tir Assessment @Chester72?

My DS was just the same and it turned out to be TT.

PritiPatelsMaker · 27/12/2022 19:29

*Tongue Tie

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