Does this make me a bad mum

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Sometimes when I’m tired I get annoyed with my 1 year old

i don’t do anything I mean like for example when he throws stuff I’m like “oh DS don’t do that” I don’t shout but I feel bad for saying that

It’s been a tough year of barely any sleep and like when I put him down and he wakes frequently sometimes I feel annoyed

i just feel bad like I should never be annoyed

also I don’t really use baby talk I tend to speak to him like an adult and. narrate a lot. I’m quite straight to the point (I have Asperger’s) in general but I did ask people around me does this make me seem blunt with my baby. They said no it’s fine but I just worry I should do more baby talk??

but I don’t naturally do it I’d have to force it really

you sound like a normal mum. Baby talk is weird and abit cringe. I don’t think that it’s the measure of a good mother.
you need to be kinder to yourself. Parenting toddlers is hard.

Everyone gets annoyed with their kids, it's completely normal, especially when you're tired. And if you don't want to use baby talk that's also fine - do what you feel comfortable with. Everyone parents in their own way!

Thank you I think it’s because we were with in laws today and DH’s SIL did a baby voice with her baby and I felt like I seemed blunt speaking to my DS like well normal I don’t particularly put a voice on!

so sometimes I wonder if I seem really blunt

But I worry a lot about socialising and social environments

No baby talk here with my 18m old. Didn't do my 10yo any harm it would seem so fingers crossed for this one!! 😂

I have never yet met a mum who hasn't become annoyed at something several times a day during some phases. DS is currently in the phase of opening every kitchen cupboard the minute my back is turned and taking out anything he possibly can. I've lost count of the number of times I've told him no over the last few weeks. Most of the time it's done with patience. Occasionally it's been less patient!!

OP don't worry. I have never been one to get angry or lose it with anyone apart from my own dc's. And I never thought I could ever get properly angry really. Guilt is a huge emotion that goes with parenting and it is only natural to react in a certain way when you're pushed to your limit. As long as it isn't hurting them of course. What you describe sounds quite gentle to be honest. You can't feel bad for just telling them what is unacceptable behaviour!

Our kids are programmed to test us to the absolute limit and we try to keep our cool as much as we can but we all have our limits so remember to be kind to yourself too.

I wouldn't worry one hoot about baby talk.

It would be very abnormal if you didn't get annoyed by your child. This will happen more frequently as he gets more annoying during the toddler years so please don't feel bad about it as you will end up really beating yourself up. Every single parent feels annoyed from time to time, most parents feel annoyed frequently!

This ⬆️.