Is there something wrong with me?

[NaatQ968]

Hi all.

Hope you are all well this Christmas Eve.

Today I went to a family members birthday gathering with my ten week old baby - normally a very happy baby but seemed to have really bad wind that she wouldn't part with whilst we were there. She screamed the place down... my family offering advice making me feel an immense pressure and overwhelmed. I decided to leave. As soon we got in the car she settled and I haven't stopped crying since. I feel so guilty whenever she cries, I just want to comfort her and make her feel better.

I cry whenever she cries, I just get so upset.

Is there something wrong with me?

Of course there’s nothing wrong with you!! You have a 10 week old baby and you’re programmed to feel intensely when she cries. I remember how debilitating I would sometimes find it. It doesn’t help when others jump in offering ‘advice’ thinking they’re helping. It usually comes from a good place but I personally always found it really knocked bony confidence like they thought i was inadequate. However, remember that no one knows your baby better than you. Christmas is a hard time when you’ve got a baby.

I was like this with my first. 💐
With my second I’m better at keeping my composure and trying different things to comfort baby.
I still remember getting all panicked and sweaty… perfectly normal.

Echo the above. There's scientific research that shows that babies' cries cause a spike in maternal blood pressure. Babies are also very attuned to your emotional state. One bad party doesn't make you a bad mummy. It simply means your baby had wind and probably wanted some peace and quiet for them and their stressed out mummy. Take a breath. Motherhood is bloody hard work.

*my not bony 😂

I am like this. My baby is 5 months and certainly within the first 3 months or so, I would be physically aching when my baby cried. My DP couldn't understand it and would say 'for god sake calm down'. I'd be really upset when she cried.
Give yourself a break. It's awful when baby has trapped wind. You just want to make it better!