newborn literally zero sleep at night

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is this normal? i’m sure my first didn’t so this but maybe i’m remembering wrong

baby is only 3 days old but basically i am pulling all nighters at the minute. she will not sleep at night unless i’m holding her (or her dad). so i’m literally just sat in bed all night holding her while she sleeps and everytime i try to put her down she wakes up. i am exhausted. really can’t remember my first doing this? someone tell me it gets better soon please i can’t keep this up

you need to find a way to put her down oh so carefully so she doesn’t realise you have done it

have you tried to swaddle her or what about one of those cots that attach to your bed

Yeah pretty normal tbh. Swaddle, cot warmed with a water bottle, t-shirt you've been wearing as a crib sheet, and transfer as slowly as possible with full-body pressure until she's thoroughly asleep.

This is how we ended up co-sleeping. DS1 refused to be put down.
Have a read on how to do it safely if it's something you think might end up happening.

If you are breastfeeding I use to swaddle them and lean over popping in the boob when in the next to me. Then slowly pull away once asleep.

I bed shared with my first, only way I got to sleep. My second was a weird baby who slept in his crib from the first night 🤷‍♀️

100% normal, they don't know night and day yet but they eventually start to understand it more somehow.

I agree to try a swaddle as it really helped my baby when he was a newborn. I recommend the tommee tippee swaddle bags you can get them on Amazon x

My ds is 5 weeks and was the same weeks 1 and 2. It gets (slightly) easier quickly. Congratulations 😊

have been using a swaddle and it’s made no difference. does formula make a difference does anyone know

It's very normal! You'll need to experiment and find what works for your baby.

For my eldest it was a full arms-in swaddle that he needed because he would startle and flail himself awake all the time. It was a full Mission Impossible style manoeuvre to put him down for months.

My daughter was a lot easier and was ok with a hand on her chest in the Next To Me, that I could gradually remove.

You're doing everything right, it's just a case of trial and error! There were many nights where we slept in shifts (I slept 9pm - 3am and my husband did 3am - 9am)