11 month behaviour - is this normal?

[kisaki333]

Heya, ftm here so a bit lost, really. My DD will be 11 months next week. In the last month or so, she's become more and more alert and curious about the world. Great. Lately, whenever she sees something interesting/she wants, she points at it and says "bah" ( lol, she can't talk yet). The thing could be anything, such as a water bottle or a tissue box, etc. But sometimes it's something dangerous like forks or a pen or something she could easily hurt herself with. If I refuse to give it to her, she immediately starts screeching and angry crying, turns all red, and I think sometimes holds her breath. I have to physically remove her from the room and try to distract her for about 10 mins before she calms down.
It's very intense. Is this normal or should I start worrying about adhd and autism etc?

She's just super angry that she can't have what she wants! At that age they obviously can't understand why not, and she's just showing you how she feels 😡😅

Thanks, yes I figured at this age they wouldn't know about patience, boundaries etc. But what i am trying to understand is if the level of her anger is normal. It seems extreme to me. If a 5 year old acted the same i would be horrofied, for example.

My 11 month old throws the most epic tantrums. She’ll try to bite or hit you and if she can’t get you she bites herself, then she’ll scream at you. Some
babies are more chilled like my first who would be miffed you’d taken it away but move on quickly but others are more vocal about it!

A 5 year old is massively more developed than a baby so their reaction would be more rational but even then they may still throw a strop. My 4 year old throws more strips now than he ever has. They’re still not emotionally that advanced and struggle to regulate their emotions

Thank you @EEwanismydreamsheep that makes me feel much better. At least she doesn't bite. Yet hahahahha

Why is everything ADHD and autism!

Totally normal

@MMissMaple82 I think it's just a case of each parent wanting what's best for their child. Adhd and autism are "in" right now so it's natural to worry about it.

I know I despair! Anything outside of an extremely narrow stream of ‘normal’ = ASD/ADHD

She sounds fine and normal OP

DS2 had a very similar phase around the same time. He's 18m now and can throw an EPIC tantrum when things don't go his way.😂

Normal age appropriate tantrums. This is a good approach www.ahaparenting.com/read/toddler-tantrums

Forget ADHD and autism, unless you get to a point in parenting that you're feeling like you're completely drowning and no normal advice is making any difference - THEN you start to consider things like ADHD and autism. The worrying about it constantly from the slightest quirk is surely really unhelpful (I say this kindly, as someone with ADHD myself and an ADHD child and I wish I had known sooner - I still would not have benefited from the suggestion until I was in that help, I am actually drowning point).

There are a lot of people on social media who want to sell you things and if they can activate common fears to get you to be more susceptible they will. Unfollow anybody making you feel anxious or inadequate. In fact be incredibly picky about what parenting-related accounts you follow in all cases, have a look at the instagram mum thread to see how hypocritical and unrealistic a lot of them are.

It's her way of communicating she's cross she can't have what she wants. In a year or so she'll be lying on the supermarket floor tantrumming 🤣🤣

What do you mean ADHD/Autism is “in” ? I That’s an awful and offensive thing to say.

@LLittleMrsPerfect I didn't mean to offend, I just mean they are a lot more talked about now than they were back when I was young for example. Back then I didn't even know they existed let alone know about spectrums etc