Help! Baby wont sleep at all

[TiredAFmom]

My DD is 14 weeks old, and was an amazing sleeper until 3 weeks ago. She would go down like a dream and sleep 9-10 hours a night.

We've heard it might be the 4 month sleep regression starting early and that she needs to learn to self soothe before this gets better.

We have tried everything ... such as:
-Consistent bedtime routine, bath, milk, story and bed.
-White noise from above cot mobile and Ewan the sheep
-Dark room and also tried orange glow night light.
-Swaddling and even bought the Tommee Tippie swaddle bag.
-Gentle rocking to sleep and shhhhhhing
-Holding the side of her face, gently rocking her while in the cot, hand on chest.
-Pacifier which she just spits out.
-Cry it out method.

We eventually have to give up and go cuddle her to get her to stop crying and calm down. She will then fall asleep in our arms but the second you put her down she's wide awake again Screaming and crying.

Nothing is working and I haven't slept in 3 weeks. I don't know what else to try or when this will end.

Any advice is very welcome 😭

Oh bless you it is hard! But she's still so little.

I'd say to be honest just keep trying different things until you find what works for her, I wouldn't leave her to cry it out though.

One suggestion would be warming her cot with a hot water bottle before putting her down (take it away a minute or so before putting her in there) and using one of your worn t shirts as the mattress sheet so she can smell you.

Also when she's asleep in your arms, do the arm drop test - if you can lift her arm in the air and drop it 3 times without her stirring, she's in a deep enough sleep to be put down without waking

Oh another thing I read about on Mumsnet - have a look at Lynsey Hookway on instagram hope you have a good night! 🤞🏻

Please do not do the cry it out method with a 14 week old baby that is cruel. She probably just wants some comforting give them a cuddle. You say she falls asleep on you perhaps your trying to put her down before she’s in a deep enough sleep.
I know it’s very hard but this is very normal at this age she’s learning all the time. I know it must feel horrendous I’ve been there it does get easier.
I know people say have a routine but be a little flexible otherwise your going to make things very stressful for yourself.
I think you were very lucky with the long stretches of sleep, that doesn’t normally happen when they are that little.